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Nursey is offline Nursey Post #1  June 8,2009, 1:20pm
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I have skimmed through everyones post. Some great advice there. I am just wandering what makes a woman approachable. I work and I go to church. Not alot of chances of meeting a mate either place. I would never want to date anyone from work anyway. What is the chances of running into a man at the local grocery store etc. I dont do clubbing and that sort of thing. I am a christian and take my walk with God seriously. I do want to meet someone special. I dont seem to be having any luck on eh so far. Been about a month. I keep getting matched with people way far away. Like hours. I rarely get matched with anyone close. Guess I wander why men dont approach me. I dont think I am ugly but yet I know I am no princess either. I do need to loose about 50lb. I generally contribute that as the reason. Then I see skinny guys with bigger women. I am successful, caring, and easy to get along with. Oh and for all you guys wanting younger women. We hit our sexual peak 30-40's. Eye opener we love sex and still want sex! The difference is we know what we are doing.
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Why must a guy approach you? I would hazard a guess that as you get older, men don't care as much to make approaches as they did when they were younger. Its because the experience many men have is that women don't want to be approached, or worse, don't want to be approached BY YOU.

I'm a bit younger than you at 37, and I don't really approach women anymore. I stopped many years ago because it just wasn't working. It was way too hard to decide who wanted to be approached and who thought you were some kind of stalker.

Instead, I put myself in position to meet people where "approach" is not necessary. I met many women off of meetup groups. One meetup was just a random bunch of people getting together for dinner. It was easy to meet people.'

Thats just my take on it.
 
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Nursey wrote :
What is the chances of running into a man at the local grocery store etc.

Unless you get your groceries by mail order, the chances are excellent … provided you approach some guys who look single. If you wait for guys to approach you, I presume it must happen occasionally, so you have better data than we do on that.
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Nursey wrote :
What is the chances of running into a man at the local grocery store etc.
Yeah, like D_Lion said, excellent. What works for me is you eye somebody up and when they're not really watching, 'accidently' take their cart and leave yours there. Makes for a great spontaneous meeting. . Then there's always bang your cart into hers trick every time you cross paths in the aisles. Or you could use the 'combo' method of both. That increases your chances exponentially and gets better results.
 
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I have my groceries delivered.

anyhoo, i was just on the phone with my ex boyfriend ( we broke up about 15 years ago, still friends though) and asked him what qualities he looks for in a woman, and he said " a fantastic rack and a pirate ship"

 
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Then there's always bang your cart into hers trick every time you cross paths in the aisles.

If this works out, just don't ever ask to borrow his car.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
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More matches from Nigeria ...
 
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You're thinking of Somalia
 
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Dafearon wrote :
Why must a guy approach you? I would hazard a guess that as you get older, men don't care as much to make approaches as they did when they were younger. Its because the experience many men have is that women don't want to be approached, or worse, don't want to be approached BY YOU.

I'm a bit younger than you at 37, and I don't really approach women anymore. I stopped many years ago because it just wasn't working. It was way too hard to decide who wanted to be approached and who thought you were some kind of stalker.

Instead, I put myself in position to meet people where "approach" is not necessary. I met many women off of meetup groups. One meetup was just a random bunch of people getting together for dinner. It was easy to meet people.'

Thats just my take on it.
Well, I am turning 40 this year. I am totally perplexed by this whole dating thing, almost as much as I was at 20! Women won't approach men....men won't approach women! Like, WTF?(Pardon my french..lol) This is just like that Grade 10 School Dance where all the guys are on one side of the room and all the girls on the other!..lol. Honestly, I don't care if a women is 50lbs "overweight". When you get in your 40's, that 50lb's seems to be the 'sliding scale' for women and men. Plus, while I am at it, this whole LDR thing. Who cares? If something is really worth it, it can work out! People are SO pessimism, so dang picky (I understand there are dealbreakers...and hold high standards myself), like just get on with the show, you know what I mean?..lol. Just meet...go on a few dates...and then make some real judgment. I know how hard it is to just go out and talk to some gal at a bar. But, despite my major introversion, I did it! And I got some dates out of a few of them. Now, if women would do the same, then hell ya!
 
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I'd say in general, guys want women who will make their lives better, not worse.
Usually it starts out that way, her being fun to spend time with, easy going, sweet. But all too often, it doesn't end up that way.

She stops taking care of herself, starts nagging you, and generally makes you want to avoid her. That's when you think about finding someone else, cheating, breaking up, or getting a divorce...when the guy makes a concrete decision that's he's better off without her and it's worth the effort to leave.

Bottom line: appearance gets our attention, but it's how you treat us that will keep us...generally.
 
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