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shaytala is offline shaytala Post #1  June 8,2009, 9:28am
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Met online, we're both over 55, (so that maturity thing should come into play here), I had placed the ad, liked his response right off, emailed 2 or 3 times and gave him my number, we had 3 really great and long phone calls with no shortage of things to talk and laugh about, had tried to set up meeting but our schedules conflicted (I had company coming in from out of town as well).

His last call to me was 3 hours on Fri evening AFTER I had sent him a reply to an email from him the previous day where I spelled out some serious info about who I was and what I wanted in an SO. He discussed some of those things when he called me that night and it seemed we were pretty much on the same page.

All of his actions have been positive and I felt a really good energy with him. So I called him last evening and he seemed happy to hear from me...we talked a few minutes and then I initiated the thought that we get together for coffee. He said "that sounds good". He was just finishing watching a show and could he call me back?

He never called back. He's an intelligent and thoughtful man. What happened? What did I do? This sure perplexes me.
 
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Joker1 is offline Joker1 Post #2  January 13,2010, 7:25pm

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Not enough information. You guys talked for hours. Then you sent an email laying down the law?

You two contineued to talk. His not responding could be for any reason at all. Not all men are alike just as not all women are alike.

So take a pick, he rejected you on hair color, because you did this or that, because you didnt' do this or that, etc.

Or maybe he rejected you because of one of another 100 reasons. You cannot say one man represents a whole gender.

Good luck to you
 
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shaytala wrote :
Met online, we're both over 55, (so that maturity thing should come into play here), I had placed the ad, liked his response right off, emailed 2 or 3 times and gave him my number, we had 3 really great and long phone calls with no shortage of things to talk and laugh about, had tried to set up meeting but our schedules conflicted (I had company coming in from out of town as well).

His last call to me was 3 hours on Fri evening AFTER I had sent him a reply to an email from him the previous day where I spelled out some serious info about who I was and what I wanted in an SO. He discussed some of those things when he called me that night and it seemed we were pretty much on the same page.

All of his actions have been positive and I felt a really good energy with him. So I called him last evening and he seemed happy to hear from me...we talked a few minutes and then I initiated the thought that we get together for coffee. He said "that sounds good". He was just finishing watching a show and could he call me back?

He never called back. He's an intelligent and thoughtful man. What happened? What did I do? This sure perplexes me.
Maybe he fell asleep in front of the television?

Let me assure you that women in my age group are just as fickle. Oh, and I am in the over 55 group too.
 
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Maybe he fell asleep in front of the television?
Lol. That is what I was thinking too. Then I realized the post is from way back in June. I'm sure the issue is resolved.
 
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robv_la is offline robv_la Post #5  January 14,2010, 5:20am
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Old post but I'll respond since it might be helpful to others.

If you haven't even met the other person yet, it's way too early to communicate your expectations in a significant other. It kills the fun part of meeting someone new and feels restrictive.

Explaining what you want should come gradually, give the other person time to get to know you in person.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #6  January 14,2010, 5:52am

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Lol. That is what I was thinking too. Then I realized the post is from way back in June. I'm sure the issue is resolved.
Do you think he woke up?
 
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richey is offline richey Post #7  January 14,2010, 2:53pm
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lol.... Well apparently is all okay if she hasn't updated this (one way or the other). But I was laying down $20 on "he fell asleep" also.

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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #8  January 14,2010, 2:58pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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He may have died. (Inappropriate example of dark British humour).

Actually I may well tell myself this everytime anyone poofs or I get another boyfriend who behaves like my ex.

 
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shaytala wrote :
He never called back. He's an intelligent and thoughtful man. What happened? What did I do? This sure perplexes me.

1. Kidnapped, possibly eaten, by space aliens.
2. Dog eat his mobile phone.
3. Vile poofer!
4. He found someone he liked better.
5. He is not feeling any desire to meet, and doesn't without a sense of anticipation toward you.
6. He has some acute problem, perhaps with emplyoment, family, etc.

I see no sign you did anything wrong (I'd say those phone calls were much too long, but is both of you like the same thing, that would not be a cause.)

In my view it is reasonable to state a time to meet - perhaps use a pretext to imply meeting has to happen on a specified date; send the message "I will in the area of [wherever] Friday; can we meet at [name of place and time]."

If that doesn't work, or you don't want to or are not comfortable, you have no option but to forget this fellow and look for others.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
He may have died. (Inappropriate example of dark British humour).

This can happen when you're over ... forty!
 
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