Dating more than one person at a time


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christianlife is offline christianlife Post #1  June 7,2009, 12:07pm
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christianlife wrote :
...but what if the guy that I'm dating isn't,...

Too bad for him. You're not leading anyone on. Ask him if he's dating anyone else and when he asks you the same thing, tell him yes.

I have had several people go through various stages,about 6 or so to O.C. but alot of them have poofed.

That's why you should meet and date as many people as you're comfortable with. Most won't materialize into anything and it turns into a numbers game.


I really would like to meet an Eharmony match because I want to see if the compatibilty factors are true but it hasn't happened yet.

Maybe the compatibility factors aren't working for you here.

I have had so much response from my POF profile...

Use eH as ONE of the tools to meet other people.

and am talking to several people so, if I can figure out the dating more than one person thing,I will be going on lots of dates.

OK...so go out on lots of dates.
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In "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping" it says that you should date as many people as you can.
 
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ok, all of yous who complain about poofers... dating more then one person at the same time... duh!
 
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Until last year, I was just like you. I dated one person at a time. I broke up with my gf at the time, and I slowly started back into the dating world. I had one good date with one person, but refuse to get tunnel vision. Then i had another first date with someone and it kind of snowballed.

I never lied to any one of them about it. I never ignored any of them. I kept in touch and did my best not to poof. It was a totally different experience and I would say, its very empowering. I think this made me MORE attractive because i was letting myself decide what is best for me instead of waiting for an affirmative answer to go ahead.

Downside, is that eventually, you will have to make a choice to be exclusive with someone (you should unless you're a glutton for punishment ) It really really hard when someone really fell for you on their part, and you have to chose against them. Also, dating multiple people can really wear you down. You have a great time, but it does take its toll after a while.
 
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The way I see it is, if you feel comfortable doing this, do it. If you don't, then don't. If the other person isn't seeing anyone else, that's fine. Maybe it's just their way, or you're the only person they're interested in at the time. Be honest and be yourself. If some guy who you've only dated once can't believe the decision you've made by dating multiple people, they're probably not mature enough for you. The fact that you want to question this proves that you have a strong moral profile. A lot of people will just date and date lots of people, sometimes for the wrong reasons. But dating multiple people can be hard, and if you see several people several times and have to make a choice about exclusivity, that will be even more difficult. It's life. If you really do have a personality that insists you only date one person at a time, firstly, don't do it out of guilt. That could result in people getting hurt. Second, there's honestly nothing wrong with exclusive dating. Believe it or not, every one of my friends that dated only one person at a time have had happy long term relationships with those people. In fact, most of them never dated another person in their lives, and they wound up married too. Now, this may not be typical anymore, but it does still happen. And if it so happens that's how your life turns out, then as long as you're happy, what's the problem?
 
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txbubba wrote :
ok, all of yous who complain about poofers... dating more then one person at the same time... duh!
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You don't have to 'poof' on them. Just tell them you feel it's not a good match because they're too fat or too short or whatever.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
Dude,
You don't have to 'poof' on them. Just tell them you feel it's not a good match because they're too fat or too short or whatever.
that is the hardest thing in the world for some people do.

It's probably easier to hire a hit man.
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Why do I keep reading threads about how much success people are having and how many dates they have and how great they are, but they all seem to end in 1-6 months. How many people do you have to date before you realize that sticking with one man or woman and getting to know them might mean a longer and possibly permanent relationship.

I get the feeling sometimes that folks here don't really want anything to last because there is this endless supply and you can keep going through them for years.

What is everyone looking for? Perfection? If you have a good time with someone and date them for 2-4 months what makes them suddenly go bad?

That's what I want to know.
 
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sc4me wrote :
I get the feeling sometimes that folks here don't really want anything to last because there is this endless supply and you can keep going through them for years.

What is everyone looking for? Perfection? If you have a good time with someone and date them for 2-4 months what makes them suddenly go bad?

That's what I want to know.
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