Are you in a hurry to get the date with someone you like?


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bravethestorm is offline bravethestorm Post #1  June 5,2009, 11:05pm
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If you see someone or talk to someone you like...are you in a hurry to get a date with them?

Some people seem to dart like those stalking a parking spot cutting off anyone that might be waiting and zoom right to the point. Others take their time...

Which works best for you and why?
 
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I think the answer is pretty simple: Most people would want to take it slower with someone they are unsure about, and speed it up with someone they really like.
 
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I dart and zoom, but only after he initiates

I'm rather impatient and prefer to find out sooner, rather than later, if there is something worth pursuing. If I wait too long, I tend to build up expectations, which usually leads to disappointment.
 
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I floor it and release the dating clutch. I figure life is too short (unless you make bad decisions) and I don't want the competition to take advantage of my inaction.

I had a roommate who ran into a woman he hadn't seen since college. He took her out to dinner, movies, dancing and they had the time of their lives. A month later he said he was in love with her; yet, he never tested the waters and kissed her. When he finally did; she was weirded out and she didn't want to see him.

I also like to date or meet the person because email is a very low form of communication. It helps to weed out who I connect with or not.
 
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bravethestorm wrote :
If you see someone or talk to someone you like...are you in a hurry to get a date with them?

Some people seem to dart like those stalking a parking spot cutting off anyone that might be waiting and zoom right to the point. Others take their time...

Which works best for you and why?
Here in the real world, I tend to test the waters, and try to tell if she's just being friendly or is interested in dating. For the quality of the dates I get, it does work well. But, for the quantity of the dates I get, it doesn't work well at all. There's pros and cons to that. The most obvious cons is that I might not ever see her again, or I might wait too long and someone else has already asked her out. One of the pros is that, if she's interested, she's more likely to not notice the hunkier guy and keep talking to me - I've already established a baseline. Life in the jungle is brutal.

On-line is a bit different. The assumption is that if she's on a dating site, she wants to date...it might not be me she wants to date...but she is looking for someone. So, yeah, if I like her profile and like whatever pictures she's posted, then I'm going to immediately initiate conversation. I'm not going to pounce on her like a hyena, but I am going to do the best I can with my little mating dance. Obviously, I'm not the only guy contacting her, so I do want to get to an actual date sooner than later.
 
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Eh, I first wanted to see if they met my standards before I would ask them on a date.

A pretty face is nice, but I wanted more than that.
 
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bravethestorm wrote :
If you see someone or talk to someone you like...are you in a hurry to get a date with them?

Some people seem to dart like those stalking a parking spot cutting off anyone that might be waiting and zoom right to the point. Others take their time...

Which works best for you and why?
I'm in a hurry to spend time with him, not necessarily in a dating scenario though. I do find this confusing, because the definitions between what is two friends meeting up and what is a date, aren't as clear. It would be nice if he would wear an 'I'm interested' sign, then I wouldn't have to guess! LOL
 
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I guess yes. If online I want to just meet them so we don't 'waste' time getting to know each other and then realize we have no chemistry.

Off-line, if he is interested and there is some spark (a long event where time was spent talking and listening and clearly there is some chemistry!), I would want to just have a date and see where that goes, versus, continue seeing him once a couple of weeks in groups settings to see what happens.

I am horrid at giving out signals lately!
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
I'm rather impatient and prefer to find out sooner, rather than later, if there is something worth pursuing. If I wait too long, I tend to build up expectations, which usually leads to disappointment.

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