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myharleysgotpink is offline myharleysgotpink Post #1  June 5,2009, 7:16pm
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Matched with someone online and I liked how expressed himself in his profile. He has been married twice (second time is one of those "doesn't count" marriages of 5 years). First time for around 15 years. Exchanged enough emails and phone calls to decide to meet. I am a little concerned about the 2 marriages, but know someone in this situation and would not be concerned so trying not to pass judgement on that one.
He mentioned in conversation that he very seldom gets mad but when he does...........he gets pretty mad. Red flag was my feeling. He said both times he was sleeping & that his previous wives thought it humorous to mess with him while he was asleep in the chair. The first time he said his wife encouraged her sister to poke at him and that he awoke immediately and grabbed her, put her in a headlock and eventually ended up wrestling her to the floor! All this time, he says he was not awake enough to know what he was doing. The second time it was again the wife who he says encouarged his young son to throw a football on him while sleeping and when it landed in his lap, he again awoke enraged and flew out of the chair. The wife & son scattered to a bathroom & he chased them (again saying he wasn't awake enough to fully realize what he was doing) and when they shut themselves in the bathroom, he hit the door with both arms and shattered the door. This is when he saw it was his own son responsible and when he saw how scared the boy was, he immediately calmed down.

I'm having trouble imagining the previous wives would both do such things. Also hard to believe not knowing that you are wrestling a female relativet o the ground in a headlock no less.

Are there really people who sleep so soundly and are so protective that they awake in rages like this? Or are the stories just a cover for a real & potentially dangerous temper?
 
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If true, it's way too much personal information too soon.

I would be reluctant to meet that person.
 
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myharleysgotpink is offline myharleysgotpink Post #3  June 5,2009, 7:28pm
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BTW, he revealed this a few hours after having minor surgery and was on prescription pain medication.
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #4  June 5,2009, 7:29pm
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Not surgery for knife wounds or anything like that?
 
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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #5  June 5,2009, 7:30pm
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If I were you, I'd stay as far away as possible fom this man.
I see no reason to subject yourself to outbursts of his temper, regardless of reasons. Huge red flags there! He needs to address his problem before he can date anyone.
 
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You have got to be kidding me.


You can do better than *this*.


Throw this one under the bus.


(By the way, in criminal law, those incidents are called "prior similars".)
 
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Fully awake or half asleep it is still a major problem.

Someone that snaps immediately into aggression from a very minor stimulus is more than just a red flag. Not worth it.
 
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There are all sorts of sleep disorders like this. There have been people that murdered someone, all while sleeping through it.

Night Terrors - Symptoms, Treatment and Prevention

Night terrors usually occur 1/2 hour to 3 1/2 hours after falling asleep. During these episodes people wake up sweating heavily, their hearts pounding and eyes glazed over, screaming in fear. They are unaware of their surroundings and unresponsive to attempts to comfort them. They may not calm down for 10 or 15 minutes, although they return to sleep quickly once the episode ends.
 
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Whether he was asleep or not really doesn't matter when it comes down to what might have happened.

It's unusual he's being honest about it but to me the details he does give..aren't the least bit positive.

I would run for the hills...simply isn't worth the personal risk.
 
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We could pick apart the details of the guys behaviors for all the what’s, why’s and how’s of it and the bottom line will still be that he has acted out in violently aggressive ways toward his wives.

A poke here, a football there, sleeping or awake, a headlock or a shattered door – is this any sort of thing that you want to be involved in?
 
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