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Skyking6976 is offline Skyking6976 Post #1  June 5,2009, 8:21am
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Any Gentile men here ever dated a Jewish woman? Just wondering what to expect. If you are going to respond that all women are unique don't bother.

Got matched up with a 40ish Jewish woman (both race and religion) a couple of months ago. She already has children and doubt if she wants more. Kept going back and looking at her pictures because I was attracted to her so I thought what the heck.

She preferred FastTrack so I requested that and she accepted. Wrote her a second email yesterday, she looked at my profile but didn't write anything back. My view is it wouldn't have taken but two minutes to write hey, I'm a math teacher and the end of school is Friday so give me until Friday evening or Saturday to write...something like that. I'll give her until Saturday evening before closing her out.

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Any Gentile men here ever dated a Jewish woman? Just wondering what to expect. If you are going to respond that all women are unique don't bother.

Got matched up with a 40ish Jewish woman (both race and religion) a couple of months ago. She already has children and doubt if she wants more. Kept going back and looking at her pictures because I was attracted to her so I thought what the heck.

She preferred FastTrack so I requested that and she accepted. Wrote her a second email yesterday, she looked at my profile but didn't write anything back. My view is it wouldn't have taken but two minutes to write hey, I'm a math teacher and the end of school is Friday so give me until Friday evening or Saturday to write...something like that. I'll give her until Saturday evening before closing her out.

Thanks in advance.
Questions like this make me giggle. Why would dating a Jewish girl be any different than dating any other girl? People are people. Take her for who she is, not how she shows love for God. I've dated some Jewish girls and the only thing you might run into is depending on how devote they are, you might not be going on dates on Friday night / Saturday daytime or you might not be sharing dinners that involve pork. It's not really a big deal though as I see it because everyone comes with their own set of peculiarities. Have fun and good luck on your date!
 
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Don't read anything extra into it, just be yourself. A jewish lady is no different from any other lady. Are you looking for her to have a relationship with or her religion?
 
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I am dating a Jewish woman I recently met on eHarmony. Our first meeting was one of my best first dates ever. Tomorrow we are meeting up again and expect things to go fairly well. Our solid rapport has nothing to do with religious differences.

All that said, the one issue I do foresee is that she not only has a strong desire to raise Jewish children, but she wants her future partner to be passionate about raising Jewish children as well. In the back of my mind, I really question my ability to do this. The good thing though is that we're talking about it upfront instead of postponing the inevitable conversation.

In our last conversation, I told her that even if a serious relationship doesn't come out of it, our mutual admiration for each other should be sufficient to maintain a lasting friendship. I have done this with a couple other people I've met online and still keep in touch and meet up.
 
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Are you trying to find out if they have tails, horns and pointed ears?
Maybe down deep your a small time bigot, I think that you have to re-read your post again. Can you engage her in a conversation? Maybe she see's right through you and does not want to waste her time.
Bottom line: putting aside ethnic and personal beliefs most women are the same with their own personalities. Why assume that she is going to act in a predictable way? Maybe she's different then the ladies that you normally date.

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Well Harvey7 I don't think I'm prejudice. During the 33 years of my life before getting married I dated and\or slept with women of just about every race and religion there is and had a wonderful time. I married a Hispanic women and we had a great marriage during our 10 years together.

I can't imagine what I could have written where she could "see right through me." I just sent her a hello and looking forward to getting to know you email. I've dated 12 women through eH and had a relationship of one kind or another with 7 so I think I know what to say and what not to say in order to get women excited about the prospect of getting to know me. I'm not saying you are totally wrong that some how some way she has drawn some incorrect conclusion.

Thanks coffeegeek for the info. That's the info I need to know about... the Friday night\Saturday stuff. I knew about the pork. I googled the issue and read stuff all over the map. Even read about the Law of Niddah. Don't know how strongly that is practiced or if I'm allowed to touch her, kiss her or what during that time.
 
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alex751 that is a tough issue. I hope things work out for you.

My match is in her 40's has children so that won't be an issue. When I googled this issue I learned that many Jewish people feel strongly about continuing their race an I completely understand where they are coming from.

I knew a fella years ago who was Jewish, came from a wealthy family on the Texas border and his mother told him to date all the women he wants but he is going to marry a Jewish woman, period. He was still single and in his late 30's at the time. I understood both sides of the issue but for him his inheritance depended on him doing his part to continue the race. I'm sure that is not uncommon...right or wrong.
 
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Skyking - There are different branches or movements of Judaism, ranging from reform to Orthodox. If she were Orthodox (the most conservative) we would not even be having this conversation because it's unlikely that she would be willing to date someone who is not Jewish himself. If she's reform (the most likely case), you may only "notice" the religious differences around holidays, depending on the extent to which she keeps kosher or attends services.

Without knowing more about her (which you have yet to learn), you'll just be guessing about how her religious practice affects her dating.
 
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Thanks neardc.

I won't give her much more time to respond since she prefers FastTrack and I haven't heard from her since she agreed to communicate two days ago and she looked at my profile yesterday...that's just the way I roll.

However, based on the comments here, I may not hear from her until Sunday so I'll give her until Sunday night. Plus she is a teacher and today is the last day of school.
 
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well it is silly for others to right this off as insignificant. It can be very significant. You will have to find out through communicating and dating.

Even Jewish people that are not practicing may be very strict in who they choose to date and moreso, how they want to raise their children. It's a much bigger deal than just....when or if they go to church.

The fact she is willing to date outside of the religion is a sign she may be serious about considering non-jews.

I've most certainly been badly burned by this before. So I of course say proceed with caution, but most importantly find out and ask her about it before getting invested.
 
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