Date You Knew Wouldn't Go Well - UPDATE


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blrdancer is offline blrdancer Post #1  June 5,2009, 6:27am
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A few of you may remember my post earlier this week about whether or not to go ahead with a date w/ someone following an awkward e-mail/phone call exchange.

Well, several of you said to go - so I did. I was prepared for the worst, figured we could have a quick drink and go, even had my exit plan prepared.

Needless to say I was absolutely shocked when it ended up being my best date in a long time. We got along really well -- and I think it was a case where his sense of humor didn't transfer well via e-mail/first phone impressions. He even apologized for how he came off in those instances -- we talked for nearly 3 hours, no awkward moments, we both agreed we'd like to go on a 2nd date.

I just thought I'd give you all an update since you were great to weigh in with your thoughts. And maybe this will help someone who's in the same situation. Obviously, if your gut is telling you no for safety reasons or you've seen major red flags - then it may be different. But if you're just not getting a good read on someone -- it may be worth it to meet in person.

So now, we'll just have to see what happens from here
 
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Hey, that's great news! You did what I would have done which is give him the benefit of the doubt. It's wonderful that things went so well but you wouldn't have been too surprised or upset if it didn't.

Hope the good things continue.
 
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i guess that back in the old days things were the opposite - folks met face to face, first, and then later on realized that their parnters had terrible phone and letter writing skills
 
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Congratulations!
Wish more people would keep an open mind like that and be less quick to judge someone just because they are not a brilliant writer or phone person. You won't be dating their e-mails you'll be dating them. :P
 
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This is great. This is exactly what i mean when i said that these profiles are bare minimums of who a person really is. Its why even if something in the profile seems concrete wrong and unappealing, you could still be surprised. There's nothing wrong with confirming that its a bad match. Worse case scenario, you're in the same position, best case scenario...yours.
 
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That is awesome girl. One more check for woman's intuition.
 
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Congratulations!! This is fantastic news. I am so glad things went well. Keep us updated. Good Luck
 
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blrdancer wrote :
Obviously, if your gut is telling you no for safety reasons or you've seen major red flags - then it may be different. But if you're just not getting a good read on someone -- it may be worth it to meet in person.
You are SO RIGHT. I have heard TONS of stories about people who initally didn't think it was worth a date, and they met and totally hit it off.

So happy you had a positive outcome, continue to keep us posted!!!
 
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