American_Girl is offline American_Girl Post #1  June 4,2009, 8:26pm
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Why would a 26 year old, good looking guy, be interested in me, 46 year old woman?
 
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wow. That is a stretch. I'm a 32 year old woman. I have a date with a 44 year old man on Friday...and more of a friendly dinner not really date with a 50 year old on Saturday....both of which are a stetch for me! Though I do like them both. I'm interested in the 44 year old but the age difference bothers me a little bit.
 
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I would think that he is giving you a shot because he thinks that he might have a better time with an older woman. It could end up to be just what he was looking for.
 
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American_Girl wrote :
Why would a 26 year old, good looking guy, be interested in me, 46 year old woman?
Hmmm, that is a bit of a gap. How did you meet this guy?

The bottom line is that you're not going to know why he's interested, until you get to know him. So, give him a chance to explain where he's coming from. You never know...

Best of luck!

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Could make up all kinds of things, from the really icky to the totally sublime. Bottom line: cautiously check it out. He could turn out to be a gem!
 
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American_Girl is offline American_Girl Post #6  June 4,2009, 9:23pm
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I met him at school. I went back to college after my husband left.

I just don't get it. There are a lot of good looking women there, closer to his age (obviously).

And he's really good looking.

I'm just so leery of everyone, now, I guess.
 
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American_Girl wrote :
Why would a 26 year old, good looking guy, be interested in me, 46 year old woman?

Who knows? Maybe:
  • he has trouble attracting (or holding interest) of women his own age (or women of any age)?
  • he's hoping for a little action and he buys into that myth that older women are "easy" because we're all desperate.
  • age doesn't concern him - the "age is just a number" thing.
  • or how about this...
Maybe he doesn't, ordinarily, date older women but he's interested enough in you to overlook/disregard the age difference. Maybe he thinks you're cute, pretty, smart, funny, fun, sexy, interesting, cool... or all of the above.

Personally, I would just ask him.
It can be asked in a way as not to sound insecure. In fact, I don't think such a question is a sign of insecurity. Its a very reasonable question. We're not talking about a 5 - 10 year age difference, here.

Enough of my analysis about him. I want to know if you are interested in him.
Details, please.
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American_Girl wrote :
Why would a 26 year old, good looking guy, be interested in me, 46 year old woman?
Just curious: on what basis are you saying he's interested? Did he tell you he was romantically interested? Did he ask you on a date and use the word 'date'?

Given where you met him, he may simply enjoy talking to you but see you more as a friend, or value your opinion on things without there being any romantic interest. I'm not saying he's not interested that way - just need more details to know whether that is in fact the case.

It could also be that given that he is good-looking, he enjoys being around a woman without there being romantic expectations. When I was in high school, there was this one good-looking guy who always had girls fawning over him. I wasn't one of those girls, because it takes more than lokos tro impress me. But one of the things I noticed was that when it was just me around, he seemed to be more 'real' rather than playing the part of the good-looking jock. There was never any romantic spark between us, but I got the sense that he felt relieved when he was around just me - and he would open up to me in ways he didn't in front of those other girls. It could be something like that.
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No, he asked me out on a DATE. He said those words. "Let's go on a date. What do you like to do."

I'm definitely going to ask him. We'll meet for coffee before our date and I'll ask him then.

I just wanted to get your non-objected opinion.

He asked me out on a date, he's texted me out on a date a few times. He asks me out every time I see him. Okay, only the last two days of school. LOL

I told him I couldn't go out until after next week because I'm busy with my classes and my daughter is graduating. That's why I've been putting him off.

I'm interested. I'm not looking to get married or even a serious relationship.

Did I say he was really cute?
 
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peg099 wrote :
just need more details
Yes! More details, please.
 
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