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islandrain80 is offline islandrain80 Post #1  June 3,2009, 8:45am
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What would you think of a woman who responded to your persistence or initiated on her own accord sex early in the dating game...2nd or 3rd date I guess would be a good estimate?

Would you think she was to easy and move on? Or think she was really into you and continue dating?
 
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How come you are asking? Did this happen to you?
 
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There are ways in which you can have your cake and eat it too. Like be very playful and the guy will take the lead. My guess is that the guy is a closet gay if he has not initiated sex with you by the 3rd date. A lot of professionals do that as they don't want to come out and ruin their career.

If the guy was me and the girl initiates the sex without saying things like " I have never done this before" I would immediately relegate her to the FWB category. Of course, I would also consider her as marriage material if everything else about her checks out.
 
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Our values are incompatible and I would be ending the relationship at that time.
 
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This type of question has been asked a couple of times around here.

It germinates from high school where if a girl "puts out" then the guy tells all his friends, and every date she gets expects the same thing.

Once adulthood is reached, this is no longer true. For some guys (like me) I would love it! (Others as gr8 said have different moral values.)

For male adults, they're either going to stick around just long enough to get sex (in which case it doesn't matter whether it's the second date or the 20th), or they're interested in you (in which case sex will just be a nice positive side effect.)
 
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Ylog wrote :
My guess is that the guy is a closet gay if he has not initiated sex with you by the 3rd date.
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6dle899 wrote :
How come you are asking? Did this happen to you?
Yes. Twice. Neither time did I feel pressured, it felt right. But after that they poof.
 
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If I meet someone for a date the chemistry better be so strong that we have a hard time tearing each other apart at her car...to the point she sits in her car and gets out again for one more kiss goodnight.

Therefore, yes sex on the 2nd or 3rd date is probable...not always. Never met someone that we had a nice dinner said goodbye with a hug or quick peck and continued to see each other.

Yes, a couple of the women have been long term...a year or more of dating. I really don't know about your situation but I have slept with women that quick and found sexually we were not compatible. Although I am a young widow sex was a big part of the success and closeness in my marriage. Sadly, being older women my age put sex for various reasons much lower on the list of things that much be awesome and frequent.

Do what feels right for you. Maybe your sexuality and sensuality didn't match theirs. Better to find out sooner than later.
 
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Do you think the result of not being sexually compatible is from knowing each other a short time? I would think the 1st time is always a bit awkward.
 
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Yes. Twice. Neither time did I feel pressured, it felt right. But after that they poof.
I can't speak for your matches since it was not me, but if you read some of the many other threads dealing with becoming itimate very early in dating you will find your story repeats with amazing frequency.
 
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