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kat5560 is offline kat5560 Post #1  June 2,2009, 8:26am
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been reading all these threads for months. (also alot of books and dvds too).

i have dicovered something. men and women are different!!!
here are some examples of some commom conceptions or misconceptions that people often hear.
men will say anything....on a first date.... to get you in bed (and mean none of it).
a women(in her mind) will pick you as her life time partner on her first date!!
a man could be with you a year and act like he is very in love. (at least it looks that way to women). he is close, having a great time with her, seems crazy about her....
yet he is only having fun until he decides or finds the right one.
a women, can only be this way with a man if she is in love.

ok, now i know there are variations to this kind of stuff and everyone is different. but admit, we think and are very different.

soooooo............ what really goes on in the mind of a man and a women that makes us so very different???
and what are the differences?? what are some examples?

men, how is it that you "really" think?
women, how is it that you "really" think? (ok i know that, im a women).
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kat5560 is offline kat5560 Post #2  June 2,2009, 8:31am
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p.s.
i thought this would be a good thread to start,,,
because after all, isnt this what every thread in here is really about?
 
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sabete2002 is offline sabete2002 Post #3  June 2,2009, 8:36am
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Do we really have to do this again?????
 
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tbesq is offline tbesq Post #4  June 2,2009, 8:39am
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This thread topic is just too broad and will only bait a gender war.

Many women have stated themselves on these boards that a woman worth her salt is not going to fall for many of the lines men use to get women into bed. I think that is expected when younger, but by the time we develop to the age many of us are here, women should really see those warning signs.

You mention that women identify men as life partners after the first date, implying that they are likely to "buy" what the man is "selling"...but isn't that part of the problem, Kat? I don't think you can ascertain such a lofty conclusion of anyone after a first date (especially a first online "meet"). Seems it is easier to identify men who won't make good partners than men who are "keepers" within that same period of time.

I think a better way to introduce your topic would be to find out how decent men and women think. Those are the people you should be concerned about, not the riff raff.

Keep in mind, also, that every man and woman "thinks" differently. That is certainly something I have noticed from these discussions (often done to avoid addressing negative generalizations towards one's particular gender). But your way of "thinking" doesn't necessarily represent the female consensus.
 
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okay never mind, the mars and venus thing is so worn and tired...
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I will agree with the general statement that men and women are different and that is a very good thing as far as I'm concerned.

However, the rest of the post as far as women only being in love while men only having fun is.....ugh....a bit out on the limb there.

I think both genders are quite good at determining who would not make a good partner at first glance. However, we end up dating people for extended periods of time because we cannot determine quite so easily that this particular person would make a great lifetime partner. Both genders are looking for a partner, for love, for companionship with the right person for them.

Just because you date someone for a year and they decide that you are not the right person for them, does not make them a bad person, no matter how much their decision hurts you. The whole point of dating is to figure it out. At the end of the day all dating has only two options - you'll either break up or get married. You'll break up many many times, before you find the person you want to marry.

Think about it this way, if men were not interested in being in a committed relationship and only women were, there would not be committed relationships. A woman cannot force a man to want commitment any more than a man can force a woman to want the same.
 
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Actually, I'm a little insulted at your generalization of men. Trying to fight that prejudice is one of the hardest things about dating. Next time you see another "why won't he make the first move" thread, think of what you said here.

I think the issue is that we both want (mostly) the same thing, we just have such disparities in thought process and the use of language, it makes it really difficult.
 
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choiceweb0pen0 wrote :
Seriously let's further confirm gender stereotypes and hasty generalizations.
oh come on... this is the internet! we love hasty generalizations as well as ad hominem fallacies
 
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kat5560 wrote :
...and what are the differences??
Men have a pen!s and women have a vag!na.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
Men have a pen!s and women have a vag!na.
YouTube - Kcop Boy and Girls have

I think that's the same kid mentioned here : http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...ex-greven.html (Got questions for "How To Talk To Girls" author Alex Greven?)
 
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