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This is an OK article, especially the accept all reasonable invitations. But in the circles I'm in "bring a friend" usually means you're welcome to bring your significant other. I used to plan plenty of gatherings, and that's what it usually turned into (couples night out). That's fine for meeting new people, but not particularly useful for making "someone fall in love with you in 90 minutes" or meeting single people in general. Anyhow, this advice is great if you want to be a social hub/coordinator, but doesn't guarantee you'll meet someone for a relationship. Weekly is a bit excessive, take a break for yourself every once in a while.

- June 2nd, 2009, 06:22 am
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dating is like someone who doesn't know how to swim who just got pushed into the deepest part of a pool.

everyone has their different way of trying to stay afloat. some succeed and others drown. Darwin is a biotch
- June 2nd, 2009, 10:12 am
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I'm assuming this is not a single full time parent working overtime, going to school and living pay check to pay check. ha ha. Who has the time to plan, invite and throw a dinner party every week? Maybe once or twice a month. But every week without fail sounds exhuasting just thinking about it. Though I've always thought poker night sounded like a fun way to kill another week.

I guess I'll just stick to the dating site version of meeting new people.
- June 2nd, 2009, 11:00 am
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Church and School are two social places that are great to meet and greet people. Yes a social life requires much time but if we're on the computer then we can go outside for an hour or two.

- June 2nd, 2009, 11:28 am
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SweetGeorgia wrote :
Church and School are two social places that are great to meet and greet people. Yes a social life requires much time but if we're on the computer then we can go outside for an hour or two.
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- June 2nd, 2009, 11:34 am
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ursusamericanus wrote :
I'm assuming this is not a single full time parent working overtime, going to school and living pay check to pay check. ha ha. Who has the time to plan, invite and throw a dinner party every week?
While the article seems to imply the dinner party thing, it could be as simple as setting up a group outing to a new restaurant for dinner, play/musical, movie, sports event, etc. I do still agree that the "every week" is a bit excessive though.
- June 2nd, 2009, 04:50 pm
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Socializing doesn't always come naturally to everyone, so I love that these tips address socializing with the people you already know and asking them to bring friends you might not.  Striking out on your own when you're shy or out of practice can be very intimidating.

- June 17th, 2009, 07:46 am
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[quote=ursusamericanus;628964]I'm assuming this is not a single full time parent working overtime, going to school and living pay check to pay check. ha ha. Who has the time to plan, invite and throw a dinner party every week?

Agree! This advice sounds about right for someone who lives in a Sex and the City type situation - not for someone with so many responsibilities and who lives in a small town where the dating pool is a kiddie pool, and people just sit around and watch Jeopardy on TV every night!
- June 17th, 2009, 10:12 am
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Well if you don't put yourself out there then how will you meet people. Being open to new things I've found is the best way to meet potential partners.
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I'm assuming this is not a single full time parent working overtime, going to school and living pay check to pay check. ha ha. Who has the time to plan, invite and throw a dinner party every week? Agree! This advice sounds about right for someone who lives in a Sex and the City type situation - not for someone with so many responsibilities and who lives in a small town where the dating pool is a kiddie pool, and people just sit around and watch Jeopardy on TV every night! "

If you can't juggle your schedule to meet new people then how are you going to? Potluck's don't require $$$ and inviting coworkers to come over with friends to a barbeque (byom) bring your own meat might help you out.

Good luck.
- June 17th, 2009, 10:26 am
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This is by far the most useful tip I have recieved from these articles.


I am not an intrinsictly social person... I am not very good at socializing.  A coworker invited me into a group of his that plays a board game or something every other Friday.  Last time I hosted at my place and played laser tag.  My four year old daughter loves the outings and company as she is much more social than I am.  She enjoys having other children to play with rather than spending the evening alone with boring old dad.


This hasn't lead to any matches yet... the group is mostly couples and married folk with little children but this article highlighted the value of social networking for me.  It also helped me realize what great socalizing practice this is.  My 4 year old daughter is a great ice breaker in meeting people with simular interests... raising children.  (She has only ever met one of the ladies I have ever gone out with as she is exposed to way more "date of the week club" through her mother already than I feel is appropriate.)


I can always come up with an excuse to not do something I am generally uncomfortable with.  Cudo's to the article for pointing out a hidden value of overcoming my shyness and putting myself out there.

- June 17th, 2009, 03:51 pm
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