Two Simple Rules for Meeting New People

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Raw_Truth is online now Raw_Truth Post #21  June 19,2009, 7:38am
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
And that is going to make him fall in love with me in 90 minutes?
Actually, you need only 90 seconds (or less)...

(Okay, maybe not for true love, but for significant chemistry.)
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verylibra wrote :
Dearest Ridge Runner,
You are so cute!!! My guess is your IQ would still be in the superior range even if it were to drop 20 points. Find some clubs to join. Go to things. Get on Facebook and go to every event that sounds interesting. I get so many invitations just from Fb. I could be out every single night if that were my style. For someone to find you, you have to peek your head out from under the covers at some time.
Smooches...VL
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But…but… doesn’t that mean I’d have to put my *face* online? *flees screaming!*

You get invitations from facebook because you are cute, sweet, friendly and female; not crotchety, sarky, and weird (like me). But I'll look into it sometime when I'm not trying to do ten things at once. *grin* And my IQ is apparently a state secret- something about government experiments in artificial intelligence, I shouldn't wonder. And thanks for the advice!

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Actually, you need only 90 seconds (or less)...
(Okay, maybe not for true love, but for significant chemistry.)
She’s not a tangerine that peels in a minute, Raw. Just look at the disclaimer in the addicted to pornography thread! *grin*
 
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aniccadhamma is offline aniccadhamma Post #23  June 20,2009, 7:44pm
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shoot, nobody talks to me on FB but my family...  hmmm
 
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Wootz wrote :
Of course I am just kidding. But my situation is unique. I have less problems talking to people and more problems with my i.q. dropping 30 points when confronted with a woman I am attracted to in person. I’d be a poor host if my acquaintances brought along a bunch of hawt wimmins. How can you make someone love you in 90 or less if your vocabulary is limited to "uhhh…" and awkward silences? *grin*
You are so right on that one. If I think there is no chance at a relationship, I can be myself. But I go on a "date" *shiver* and I become incoherent and awkward. It's like I digress to middle school. It's so embarrassing. I want to scream 'It's not me! An alien has invaded my brain and refuses to relinquish control!'
 
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mikeyhateseverythig is offline mikeyhateseverythig Post #25  August 7,2009, 6:08pm
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well it all sounds easy enough but in reality i have been attempting to meet people for 8 years . what if you send out invatation after invitation , set up a bbq or the like and again and again , the outcome is the same .....no one shows up !!!!
 
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Hey Boothman, I've got a great deal on a bridge in the NYC vicinity that I'm quite sure you'd be very interested in owning a piece of. Please get back to me on it soon it, an opportunity like this doesn’t last too long.
 
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nickoury is offline nickoury Post #27  December 29,2009, 12:53pm
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Boothman,
What are you all of 20 yrs. old and live in a frat house?
 
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DoyleF is offline DoyleF Post #28  December 29,2009, 12:58pm
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Sounds simple but wouldn't work for me.  I don't have any friends that I could be inviting anywhere.  That also means that there is no one to invite me anywhere.  Now what?
 
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DoyleF wrote :
Sounds simple but wouldn't work for me.  I don't have any friends that I could be inviting anywhere.  That also means that there is no one to invite me anywhere.  Now what?
In order for us to have friends, we need to make friends first....
There are so many ways to meet people I'd sit here all day listing them..a few are:

Volunteer-for anything that interests you. The arts, especially, have been hit hard by the economy drop. Check out ushering and tour guide positions at theatres, museums, art galleries and so on.

Meet-Up-pick a few of the things you enjoy and find a group of people who also enjoy them. I belong to a Bourbon/whisky tasting group that meets at least monthly and frequently more often-there are always new people coming in. And, a group f people who are hoping to go to Le Tour de France in 2010. We bike to our meets and do weekend bike rides together.

A hiking club, a birding club, a computer programmers club, a watercolor class, there are organizations for every possible type of interest.

Night school classes-

Book readings and signings are fun and for a single man, the men to women ratio is about 1 to 10..good odds for men.

Political clubs and organizations. Support your causes and meet people.

If you spend your nights in front of the TV or computer, you aren't going to ever meet new people. So get out into the world and try.
 
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Wow.. look at all this GRIPING about just doing 2 simple things!!!! It's amazing! Is it really that hard people?

Creating an outting doens't have to be complex, planned, expensive, or a big production at all. All it takes is ohhhh.. 1 of those lovely chain e-mails per week (most people seem to be sending far more than that already ~ especially those lovely little APP INVITES on Facebook right? give me a break people!) naming an event, time, and place... and viola... yer done. Is it really that hard?

How about all these "walks on the beach" people keep puttin gon their profiles? Just send an invite out and say "5pm, friday, Venice Beach".... yer done. And what's so hard about a "dinner outting" together? Set up a chart and rotate rsponsibilities... APPETIZER, DRINKS, ENTREE, DESSERT. Rotate. If you have 6 people in your group, then everybody gets 2 weeks off every 6 weeks. that really that hard?

Well, as they say, when there is a WILL there is a WAY, and you get out of it what you put into it. So if you're not happy with where your'e at now, why are you complaining and griping about 2 smple rules?

i think the 2 rules are awesome.

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