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curious_girl is offline curious_girl Post #41  June 1,2009, 8:08pm
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ThePriestess wrote :
I suggest everyone find happiness in the moment, regardless of their relationship status.

That is exactly my point.


And, Hoggie, CLAP CLAP CLAP


I, too, have been so full of joy from just being with my partner, and cried from happiness at the simple fact of waking up with them everyday. Of course, the heartbreak I'm (still) experiencing from that is no joke to deal with either. But I believe if and when my special someone comes along; I'll be able to love him just as deeply, except I've learned a lot about myself and what I deserve and he'll get the benefit of the added wisdom. In the meantime; I'm fabulous. I'm fabulous enough to be at peace being alone; and even to enjoy it. Though I do miss the cuddles.......hee hee.
 
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Oh. Now that I understand what this thread is about, I'm fairly happy being single right now. The only time it sucks is when I have concert tickets and can't find anyone to go with me. Everything else in life is gravy
oooh, oooh, pick me, Monty, I miss going to concerts...

Besides that, I am happy being single. It's much better than trying (and failing) to make someone else happy in a relationship. One thing I have finally learned, is that the only person I can 'make' happy is myself.
 
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TinkerKat wrote :
oooh, oooh, pick me, Monty, I miss going to concerts...

Besides that, I am happy being single. It's much better than trying (and failing) to make someone else happy in a relationship. One thing I have finally learned, is that the only person I can 'make' happy is myself.

I'll drink to that.
 
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bravethestorm wrote :
I don't think anyone knows what the future holds so it's more important to be happy with the "right now". For me, I've seen people that hope a SO will make them happy and it might temporarily but not long term. Two happy people that also make each other happy are a good match. In that case, the expectation that someone will make them happy isn't needed and therefore appreciated as a bonus.


My sentiments, exactly... on each point. Well said!
 
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coffeegeek wrote :
Oh. Now that I understand what this thread is about, I'm fairly happy being single right now. The only time it sucks is when I have concert tickets and can't find anyone to go with me. Everything else in life is gravy
I don't know where ya live, but if you've got concert tickets & need someone to go with, give me a shout in a PM!
 
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curious_girl wrote :
Seriously.

What if the mediocre relationships we've all had are the best we're ever going to get?
Wow. I would never think of any of the significant relationships I've been in as "mediocre". That's just an awful thought. I have been very fortunate to be in relationships with some wonderful, outstanding women in my lifetime.

I don't have an answer except to possibly think very hard about what parameters are important to you (e.g. overcome mediocrity) in a relationship. And/or how much of yourself you put into a relationship when you are in one (if you don't have the desire to put 100% of yourself into it, IMHO, it isn't worth being in).
 
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TinkerKat wrote :
oooh, oooh, pick me, Monty, I miss going to concerts...
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I don't know where ya live, but if you've got concert tickets & need someone to go with, give me a shout in a PM!
HA! Where were you girls before?

Most things don't get me down, but when you can't even beg for a date with a pair of sold out concert tickets, that's a bummer. I remember feeling especially like a gangrenous troll when I was left holding two for Cirque du Soleil. The solution was to sell them on Craigslist, use some of the proceeds to buy a clown wig and nose, then proceed to the bar with a couple of the guys and use the rest of the money to buy drinks. Many laughs were had by all. Being happy is hard sometimes, but it's always a choice. You just have to be determined to make that choice.
 
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curious_girl wrote :
Seriously.

What if the mediocre relationships we've all had are the best we're ever going to get?

What if we don't want to settle for mediocrity and so we remain single; dating as an interesting person presents themselves and amusing ourselves when they don't?

Is it so bad? Could we not be happy?
A mediocre relationship will only be as good as it gets if that's what you're willing to settle for. I am a single woman (never married), 37 who has decided to live solo because I prefer it that way. I will not marry and only date people who in my book are exceptional. I just haven't got the time of day for mediocrity anymore.

In my solo life I feel incredibly fulfilled and happy and love living on my own. I enjoy making career, financial and other life decisions entirely on my own. I love being the captain of my own ship. I don't miss one bit the misguided life advice coming from ill-informed partners who happen to think a p@nis is a qualification. Lol!

So yes, being solo is a wonderful option for any woman. You can be happy this way. Settling for mediocrity is for women who think they cannot do better. I feel sorry for them but will not settle for that myself.
 
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