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I stumbled upon this article:

http://www.bettyconfidential.com/ar/ld/a/Why-Dating-Bigger-Men-is-Better.html

and wondered what the Advice Community would think / say about it.

Looking forward to an interesting and respectful discussion


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littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #2  June 1,2009, 9:26am
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Hmmm...

The article is a fail for me because of the lack of logic. It is a fallacy.

Like this:
My boyfriend is big and tall.
My boyfriend is a good boyfriend.
Therefore, all big and tall men are good boyfriends.

The truth is that a good man is a good man because of his character regardless of his size (or material success, or social status, or anything else unrelated to anything other than character). Same truth for women as well.

It seems not only an over-simplification of something very complex, but a perpetuation of stereotypes.

That said, I like good men in all sizes and shapes. The key there is that they are good men (by my definition, of course, not some universal truth).
 
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Unfortunately, I am a big, tall and good man...so far I have struck out everywhere I go. Sigh...
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Hmmm...

The article is a fail for me because of the lack of logic. It is a fallacy.

Like this:
My boyfriend is big and tall.
My boyfriend is a good boyfriend.
Therefore, all big and tall men are good boyfriends.

The truth is that a good man is a good man because of his character regardless of his size (or material success, or social status, or anything else unrelated to anything other than character). Same truth for women as well.

It seems not only an over-simplification of something very complex, but a perpetuation of stereotypes.

That said, I like good men in all sizes and shapes. The key there is that they are good men (by my definition, of course, not some universal truth).
I think you might be reading too much into it. I think it is more of a "big guys are good too" than a ONLY big guys are good. It is not trying to say big guys are better but that they should be given a bigger chance. She lauded the reasons she found it a plus. At the end of the article there were questions asking for discussion on the topic. I think it was a good piece to start a dialogue even if it was definitely an opinion piece (surely it wasn't a factual informative article.)

I might be a bit biased being a big guy myself and just appreciating the support though.
 
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Czidvar wrote :
I think you might be reading too much into it. I think it is more of a "big guys are good too" than a ONLY big guys are good. It is not trying to say big guys are better but that they should be given a bigger chance. She lauded the reasons she found it a plus. At the end of the article there were questions asking for discussion on the topic. I think it was a good piece to start a dialogue even if it was definitely an opinion piece (surely it wasn't a factual informative article.)

I might be a bit biased being a big guy myself and just appreciating the support though.
Well, for what it's worth, you have mine.
 
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I love my big guy. I love the fact that I can eat french fries in front of him, and he won't complain. I love the way my cats look cuddled up on his lap, and I love the fact that once I get married, I will never need an electric blanket again .
 
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Czidvar wrote :
I think you might be reading too much into it. I think it is more of a "big guys are good too" than a ONLY big guys are good. It is not trying to say big guys are better but that they should be given a bigger chance. She lauded the reasons she found it a plus. At the end of the article there were questions asking for discussion on the topic. I think it was a good piece to start a dialogue even if it was definitely an opinion piece (surely it wasn't a factual informative article.)

I might be a bit biased being a big guy myself and just appreciating the support though.
Go read the article again. LBMM has accurately assessed the article.
 
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As LBMM said it is about character and not about the size of the package the character comes in. Though if the size becomes unhealthy then that does point to values and character.
 
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I have big feet.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I have big feet.
Do you have webbed toes?
 
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