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kat5560 is offline kat5560 Post #1  May 30,2009, 10:32pm
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my mom who is in her 70,s joined a seniors dating site. she had been communicting with a man for several weeks. he seemed genuinely excited to meet with her. she finally arranged to meet with her at a resturant (he supposably lives a few hours away). on the day they were to meet he called her and told her he had told his daughters about her and they were excited for him. he told her he was excited about meeting her.

he told her he had left his home and was on his way (and mom could hear his gps giving directions). suddenly the phone goes dead. when she tries to call him back, she gets his answering machine.
he never shows up and she tries to call back several times through out the day to see if he is ok, and left an email. that was 2 days ago and she never heard from him again.

question?? the first thought is that something terrible must have happened to him.. the second thought is,, did she get poofed?
it seems hard to believe that someone do this, but then again i have heard storys on this website about how people they meet online just go poof in the oddest ways.

i feel her bad for her becuase i know she is very confused.
 
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That does sound a bit worrying and to me would suggest that something happened to him on the way. In the end, he will contact her and she will find out, or he won't and she won't get any closure on this. In the latter case, it might not be possible to know if he poofed or not.

If something happened, it would be nice to know as a person who obviously cares about others, but in the end he is pretty much a complete stranger, so I don't think she has any recourse or "right" to find out about him. Hopefully, nothing terrible has happened and if he has been in an accident, he has people in his life already to take care of him.

Edit to add: I have assumed that she does not have enough personal information about him (like even a last name) to follow up and find out more information personally.

I hope things work out for a happy or at least safe ending for your mother and her match.
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yes i know it is really bothering her as to what happened to him. she had his cell phone number and email but did not have an address for him. she knew "around what town he lived in" but that is it.

she is torn becuase she worries that something happened to him, but does not want to keep calling in case he poofed. she did leave her phone number on his phone and email in case family would see it, but she has heard nothing.

i really do feel bad for her, becuase it must be upsetting to her having no idea what happeded to him.
 
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“Poofing” doesn’t strike me as the behavior of a man (apparently?) in his 70’s. Though, stranger things have happened. As Mel points out, I’d be more inclined to be worried in this particular situation.

She’s left a voicemail with her number and an email, and at this point, it’s really all she can do. Hopefully, regardless of whatever occurred that prevented him from meeting with her, he’s safe, and will contact her to let her know that, at least to put her mind at ease.

If he does, or someone within his family does, please update to let us know!
 
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oh wait until you hear this one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

apparently mom had some gut feelings about this and could not help herself and went against our advice to leave it alone. she sent and email telling him exactly what you thought of him for doing this.

she recieved an email in return,,, with all the words a con man. how was so upset that she thought this way about him "sweetheart",, and how he had really wanted to meet her. but when she suggested he stay at a hotel and not her house that he felt she was to apprehensive. he had really wanted to form a relationship with her,, but
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oh i guess if the stranger she met online could not sleep her house then she had problem.. what a loser!!!!!!!!

so he hangs up on her and does not pick up the phone when she tryed to call back to see if he was ok!!

not to mention he had a only given her a cell phone number and i could find nothing on his name on a people search in the state he lived in. i am so glad she listened to me to be careful!!! i dont thnk she will be back online again.
 
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That is too funny... Not for your mom... but it's better she knows now... I'm thinking he is just a cheap bast#rd or very poor perhaps...
 
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DennisWisconsin wrote :
That is too funny... Not for your mom... but it's better she knows now... I'm thinking he is just a cheap bast#rd or very poor perhaps...
If he is too poor to afford to date properly then he should not be dating at all.
 
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I am very sorry that this happened as your mom's first experience with online dating.

There are people with no class in all age groups and they can be met anywhere not only online. I do hope that your mom will not judge all by the actions of one jerk. I would suggest that she look for matches that are a bit closer to home and I wish her success and happiness in her dating.
 
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i think she is done with it. i think she is scared now and acually i was always kind of scared for her.
funny,, when i said to her about being careful next time,, she said, im done with it bacuase "its not fun anymore!!"
 
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wow...poor mom! I can't believe this poofing story!! Goes to show maturity and respect is not neccessarily aquired with age!
 
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