WhiteChristmas is offline WhiteChristmas Post #1  May 29,2009, 8:38pm
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So, a question for all you folks?

What is the ultimate that you're looking for? And how does that compare with what is actually feasible?

Now by no means do I expect that whoever "the one" is for me would be perfect. Or that there wouldn't be disagreements. Or compromise. I realize that this person would be by no means perfect, yet this person would be perfect for me.

Someone who would push my buttons to make me a better version of myself, and vice versa.
Someone who would fight to be with me, and work to make things work (as I would as well!) because they know we're better together than apart.
Someone who respected who I was, and tried to understand that, but wouldn't take my crap. (and don't we all have our "crap"? )
Someone who makes me laugh, can deal with my crazy family and somewhat hectic, travel-a-lot-for-work life (for now, anyway).
Someone who would be okay with the fact that I am a strong, successful woman.
Someone who is comfortable with being a strong man.
Someone who is looking to build a new life with a woman like me.

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TaoShaffer is offline TaoShaffer Post #2  May 30,2009, 3:55pm
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Sounds pretty manageable to me.

It's important that you remember though that some people aren't "perfect matches" right off. There's always a little growing together involved as relationships unfold. So you may not know a guys perfect for you right off.

There is a reason for the dating game.

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Whatever you, don't settle. If you are a strong woman then wait for the right one... settling is unfair to you and the person that you settle for. Wait until you find that special person.
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You know, those things don't sound unreasonable at all.

Honestly, I'd settle for someone reasonably normal, not in love with their ex, honest except about my figure, somewhat intelligent and without any addictions. Somehow that fantasy remains eternally out of my reach.
 
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i think my expectations are pretty realistic. i am not looking for anything too insane and perfect. the guy has to know what he wants and would like to travel one day and see the world. the whole idea of sitting on a couch for weeks and weeks is not an attractive idea.
someone generous and kind. a person who lives with their heart open and is not wrapped up with his ex....
when it comes to attention on me.... tricky question. i am busy with school and work and projects so he can't be calling me every 3 hours or send me texts. but a 5 min phone call at the end of the day would be nice to catch up.
 
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WhiteChristmas wrote :
Someone who would push my buttons to make me a better version of myself, and vice versa.
Someone who would fight to be with me, and work to make things work (as I would as well!) because they know we're better together than apart.
Someone who respected who I was, and tried to understand that, but wouldn't take my crap. (and don't we all have our "crap"? )
Someone who makes me laugh, can deal with my crazy family and somewhat hectic, travel-a-lot-for-work life (for now, anyway).
Someone who would be okay with the fact that I am a strong, successful woman.
Someone who is comfortable with being a strong man.
Someone who is looking to build a new life with a woman like me.

Thoughts?
All I care about are the first three (1. synergistic, challenge each other; 2. work to make things work; 3. respect each other, but will stand up to the crap) plus 4. have enough common interests that we actually want to spend quality time together.

I could care less about the rest.

I actually use the "work to make things work" in some of my open-ended questions responses.
 
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