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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Would this then mean that you only date yourself
- May 28th, 2009, 11:10 am
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Depends on the personality, I guess, of the individuals you are attracted too. If I just want to be friends with someone, I don't even think of attraction. However, I like light hearted people, who can get a joke, conversate until 2am and they just have to interest me. That's about it.If there's a league for that, I haven't found it yet. Just a lot of like minded men and women who I can talk with who aren't necessarily my types, just people who I talk to. Leagues are for baseball, soccer and chess ( that's more of a club thing, but generally the same thing) .
- May 28th, 2009, 11:39 am
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Leagues? We don't need no stinkin' leagues.

Does it really have to be that complicated? You like someone. They like you. Go. You like someone. They don't like you. Move on. Someone likes you. You don't like them. Be kind and move on.

I know a lot of people view it as dating up or dating down or whatever. I don't. I try to connect with people who have similar values, goals, and worldviews. I try to weed out those who don't. It's a work in progress. So am I.
- May 28th, 2009, 12:21 pm
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Leagues? We don't need no stinkin' leagues.

Does it really have to be that complicated? You like someone. They like you. Go. You like someone. They don't like you. Move on. Someone likes you. You don't like them. Be kind and move on.

I know a lot of people view it as dating up or dating down or whatever. I don't. I try to connect with people who have similar values, goals, and worldviews. I try to weed out those who don't. It's a work in progress. So am I.
Well said, LBMM! I couldn't agree more.
- May 28th, 2009, 02:33 pm
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LIzzie, I read the opening post in Saule's thread that you referenced and a few of the replies. It was definitely a good opening post, and hopefully people who haven't read that already will click on it and at least read his opening post.

I agree that the word "league" can have a negative feel to it, but I do think it is a concept that is in operation whether we like it or not. Maybe a better word for the sake of discussion would be "dating zone." Who is in your zone?

Does this have to be complicated? No, as one person has said it's really as simple as the people who would be attracted to you and you to them. You're both within the same zone, and you both would be open to getting to know one another better.

What about the person who feels this is all irrelevant, and no one is out of their zone because they're open to getting to know anybody to explore if there may be potential? This whole concept would still apply. Their zone would be everyone who felt the same way they did, and those who didn't but who were still attracted to them. If they're open to getting to know everyone, but the person they're wanting to pursue isn't and they don't find them attractive then they are not in their zone.

While this doesn't have to be complicated I do believe it is helpful to have a general idea what kind of person may or may not be in our zone. The one thing we can know for sure though is if someone approaches us then they are definitely in our zone.
- May 28th, 2009, 03:44 pm
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I find the concept of leagues as rather amusing. First is the fact that the person who thinks they are in a certain league is placing themselves in a certain league based on their opinion rather than known facts. Second is the fact that someone who is actually in that league or higher would most likely bypass the person who thinks they are in the same league but who is not leaving the person in a quandry as to why they were bypassed.
- May 28th, 2009, 03:52 pm
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waltercl wrote :
The one thing we can know for sure though is if someone approaches us then they are definitely in our zone.
Either that or they're invading our zone.

- May 28th, 2009, 04:05 pm
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At my age I view LEAGUE as being the level of social or financial status. In my younger days I would have thought this meant physical attributes. I guess the bottom line is "are they good enough for you and are you good enough for them"!
- May 28th, 2009, 07:50 pm
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If she'll talk to me and be genuinely interested, I'm in her league, besides being bewildered and happily surprised.
- May 28th, 2009, 08:14 pm
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becky21k wrote :
Forget about the bottom of the barrel; knock the barrel over and dig up some of the rocks under it and eventually you get to the league I seem to be in. I hate to liken it to actual baseball leagues because once you get below AAA or college leagues the analogy becomes michael jacksonesquely creepy...
Even rocks can be very rewarding, the best mines of any kind, Gold, Diamonds, are all found in rocks !!
- May 28th, 2009, 08:27 pm
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