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Most women (and from what I hear, men too) want to be someone who makes them happy, comfortable and safe to share their thoughts, feelings, humour, etc.

Personally, I'd rather date a kind and considerate "loser" who drives a Civic and does not know salad fork from a dinner fork, than a "winner" who is going to open doors, pick up the check and then tell me to "beat it" or "take a hike" the minute I say something not to his liking.
- May 28th, 2009, 08:49 am
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Feral_Mustang wrote :
I'm going to be blunt (it's been a long work day for me).

No woman with her head screwed on right will pass up a "nice guy" who happens to be highly handsome to her. Or even one who is not so good looking, but has an outstanding personality. No woman.

I hate to say, but a lot of self-proclaimed "good guys" venting about this phenomenon aren't all that good looking. Nor do they have awesome personalities to draw women to them (for the most part, they're whiners). If they had looks or personalities, they'd be captured by now.

Face it boys. Times have changed. We girls have our own money. Our own jobs. We aren't looking for what we used to in the past. For the first time in the known history of the world, we can afford to seek out the exact same thing YOU do. Sex appeal, character, and loyalty ... often in that order I'm afraid.
You GO girl!
- May 28th, 2009, 08:59 am
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Most women (and from what I hear, men too) want to be someone who makes them happy, comfortable and safe to share their thoughts, feelings, humour, etc.

Personally, I'd rather date a kind and considerate "loser" who drives a Civic and does not know salad fork from a dinner fork, than a "winner" who is going to open doors, pick up the check and then tell me to "beat it" or "take a hike" the minute I say something not to his liking.
Dang it, I'm a loser who drives a civic and does not know a salad fork from a dinner fork.

*sigh*
- May 28th, 2009, 09:01 am
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Good grief. Are you a "top producer" at Century 21 Real Estate?
- May 28th, 2009, 09:10 am
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One thing about living in a resort area on the water is that people come there for a good time not permanence. Just a thought! If you're looking for a stable LTR then the beach is probably not you're best hunting ground. You may find many more women of substance farther inland, house or apartment.

Play nicely in the sandbox everyone...
- May 28th, 2009, 09:25 am
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Dafearon wrote :
Dang it, I'm a loser who drives a civic and does not know a salad fork from a dinner fork.

*sigh*
Well, I think you could be the poster boy for why women would date losers, Dafaeron. What a loser not knowing the the salad fork and driving a civic!!! It can't have anything to do with how you conduct yourself and treat your lady - now could it??
- May 28th, 2009, 09:48 am
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.... after reviewing this thread, what I'm basically getting is that the OP is frustrated cuz he ain't gettin' any ... and, by inference, if he IS gettin' some - it ain't for any duration. He is either dumped or he dumpest, cuz WHY ELSE would he be on this board? Is he JUST looking to sound off at the water cooler? No, he's not getting any 'luv' in all its shades & glory and he wants to know WHY NOT...

If the OP's objective is to hook up with ONE woman, the answer to the 'riddle' he poses is immaterial, cuz EVERY WOMAN is, at core, FUNDAMENTALLY different. Each has different wants, needs, expectations, ambitions and 'realities'. Just like a guy. Keep that in mind, we dames be individuals with different ancestry and mythological antecedents - just like guys.

If the OP is interested in ONE woman, I think it might benefit him a great deal if he made a 'list' of the traits/characteristics he thinks and feels he might like to LIVE WITH in his mate. A short list of 5 or 10 items should 'narrow the field' and make his belly aching a little less bellicose ... Determining what YOU really want will help you find the kind of woman who best compliments YOU.

If, on the other hand, the OP IS just passing wind at the water cooler looking for the next bon mot to drop when clowning around with his co-workers, well, HOW'S THAT WORKING FOR YA? Not very well by the sounds of it. If that's where this is going, well, seems to me you gotta grow up a bit and take the whole idea of 'love', 'romance' and a woman a bit more 'seriously'. Try to focus on ONE woman, not the whole bouncing parade ... Learn to be a bit more selective, choose what YOU want and then go for it - court her, woo her, learn as you go ... If you do it right, you'll win her. For Life.

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- May 28th, 2009, 10:01 am
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LizziePooh wrote :
driving a civic!!! It can't have anything to do with how you conduct yourself and treat your lady - now could it??

What's that line about driving 'em hard and then putting 'em away wet?


< ducking and running >
- May 28th, 2009, 10:06 am
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Chris34684 wrote :
"...that don't know a salad fork from a dinner fork..."
I can't tell the difference! I use the fork I'm comfortable with...Does that make me a loser?? What does that have to do with anything?? Or the kind of car someone drives?? Or the job they have?? Or how many degrees/diplomas/certificates someone has?? I don't know, maybe this is where your problem is...YOU want someone PERFECT like YOU
- May 28th, 2009, 10:08 am
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4getmenot wrote :
I can't tell the difference! I use the fork I'm comfortable with...Does that make me a loser?? What does that have to do with anything?? Or the kind of car someone drives?? Or the job they have?? Or how many degrees/diplomas/certificates someone has?? I don't know, maybe this is where your problem is...YOU want someone PERFECT like YOU
Well, it's okay! Many of my Indian friends (who incidentally are medical doctors) don't even like to use forks. They eat with their hands!
- May 28th, 2009, 10:16 am
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