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AgOrApHoBiChEaRt is offline AgOrApHoBiChEaRt Post #1  May 26,2009, 6:41pm

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I have been single for about 6 years.Although I have no lack of interest, if it werent for bad luck I would have no luck at all. A few examples? I thought you would never ask. Okay here are the top 2:


1. I went on several dates with a self proclaimed good guy who just had no luck with the ladies. since I am born again and abstinent he conveniently claimed to be the same......on my way out the door to meet him for a date, his pregnant girlfriend calls to fill me in on his true nature.

2. I was dating someone who spoiled me and made me feel incredibly secure for about 5 months. Then he went to visit his family in India only to email me 2 weeks later to tell me he had gotten married there but would still like to continue seeing me.

Im not bitter at all about the lemons life has thrown my way. heck I would make lemonade but I am afraid the juice will aim for my eyes. Point is this, there are alot of nice guys out there. (There has to be right?) and I want to know if any of them are truly looking for a good girl. Someone who is faithful and sweet as well as funny and smart. Also if you can, check out my profile and tell me from that how Im managing to screw this dating thing up so ridiculously
 
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tbesq is offline tbesq Post #2  May 26,2009, 6:46pm
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Give us the rundown...what kind of guy are you looking for. Leave nothing out. Include ideal physical attributes you seek. I think that's a good start.
 
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AgOrApHoBiChEaRt wrote :
Point is this, there are alot of nice guys out there. (There has to be right?) and I want to know if any of them are truly looking for a good girl. Someone who is faithful and sweet as well as funny and smart.
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Don't give up and stay positive. I'm sure your nice guy is sitting around wondering where you are as well.
 
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I think the real question is. Can good girls recognize a good guy?

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TaoShaffer wrote :
I think the real question is. Can good girls recognize a good guy?

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I definitely can recognize a good guy. I dont go after shallow or cocky guys. I usually go after what I see as a nice guy with a good heart,only to have been suckerd in by a jerk with an agenda. I am involved in my church and dated a chaplains assistant who turned out to be the biggest perv ever. I am looking for someone who doesnt base a relationship on sex, someone sweet and funny who loves kids. not just because I have them but because I love children( Im a sunday school teacher) I want a man that knows how to be a man. someone who has integrity and a good heart. are those things so hard to find? people say they are looking for their soulmate but wont even say hello to someone who lives 100 miles away. that leads me to believe there arent people like me left. someone who will go to alaska or iceland to find my other half. maybe Im naive and have my nose stuck in a fairy tale.....but I like me this way and someone else will too right?

physically.........I want someone young enough to avoid that is he your dad moment in public and old enough to know a good thing when he finds it. I dont want anyone so small he makes me look obese or so big I cant hug him. I tend to like big ears and long noses but those are just plusses. Im not picky when it comes to the cover.........I just want someone who makes me wanna read the whole book over and over.
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You're searching for an ideal. It's going to be hard to find anyone that's going to be able to live up to it.

What you want in a man is not WAY out there. But I can tell you easily that you are going to have a hard time finding a mature individual as you are describing under 30.

Try to be more on your guard. It's likely that you have a very trusting nature and are apt to overlook the warning signs of a dishonest individual
 
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TaoShaffer wrote :
You're searching for an ideal. It's going to be hard to find anyone that's going to be able to live up to it.

What you want in a man is not WAY out there. But I can tell you easily that you are going to have a hard time finding a mature individual as you are describing under 30.

Try to be more on your guard. It's likely that you have a very trusting nature and are apt to overlook the warning signs of a dishonest individual

I cant say you are wrong on all counts. but theres no ideal here. just someone good in nature. I am not looking for anyone under 30 necessarily......just not someone in ther 50's
 
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There are good guys out there, just not enough for all the single good gals. LOL. Besides, most of us are probably looking in the wrong places. Just be patient and have fun. When you least expect it, it will happen
 
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lenemngk wrote :
There are good guys out there, just not enough for all the single good gals. LOL. Besides, most of us are probably looking in the wrong places. Just be patient and have fun. When you least expect it, it will happen

thanks.........Im going to choose to believe you. Patience is a virtue and Im a virtuous woman
 
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Well, I am single too. Many single people especially us gals tend to think that there are no good men out there but truth is, there are. So, don't be discouraged.

A relationship with somebody is just an extension to your life. Do not make it your life.
 
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