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I'm a pretty touchy-feely kind of person but I usually open up a date with a hug. A handshake seems too business-like. I will end the date with a hug but if the date went well, I like to kiss.

With the girl I am currently dating, the first date ended up in the lake with some making out, some touching and rolling around. So I guess it all depends on how things go.
- September 18th, 2009, 11:42 am
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i believe a hug went you meet some one for the first time and being with them for goodtime such as a date and you to hit it off having some things in common and so and realy had a good time for the first time because you will know weather you and her enjoy each other company a nother date looks pretty good at that point she will tell you she enjoy company ,you in joy company and i hope we can do this again there is a chance seeing her after realy having fun and don't feel like you are trying focer in to another date to quick i would ratter said i hope we can do this a gain some time. said ing i have to see you again is a no,no" as you get talk and both fell good about being in each other company you kind of get that feeling i like her and she kind smile at you as you are talking you tell her i would realy like see you again and she say i enjoy your compamy i would like that.
- September 19th, 2009, 12:00 am
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See that line...you will NOT cross that line!

Ok Ok...I would give her a one armed hug when I first met her. Nothing too intimate. Also, I would tend to let the woman initiate contact and watch her body language. It's not that hard to tell if you are connecting. A lot of times a woman will be more touchy feely (like touching your arm, etc.) if she likes you. It's not really rocket science, I think most of us can tell if the other person is "into us".
- September 19th, 2009, 12:07 am
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I'm trying to process the high fives... Really?

Would this be incredibly strange for anyone else?
- September 19th, 2009, 07:28 pm
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Questioninggirl wrote :
I'm trying to process the high fives... Really?

Would this be incredibly strange for anyone else?
Yup, me too.

I think a hug is always appropriate (barring any seriously egregious behavior), and a quick kiss is nice if it went very well.

A high five is just.... uncomfortable.
- September 19th, 2009, 08:17 pm
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i was just on a first date with a girl from eharmony. I used no contact with her after meeting her, i didnt do a handshake or a hug, is this a good idea? How can i tell if this was ok or not? Post and let me know what you think. We were both hitting it off pretty good but neither of us initated contact so i felt like it might be best to not do anything at the end, no hug or handshake, how do i know if this was the right thing or not? I also never asked her for her number because i was extremely nervous and would like to get that from her also, let me know what you guys would suggest.
- September 20th, 2009, 07:30 pm
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I just went on a first date from an EH member and would like to get some advice to know if a second date is in the works. I did the no contact thing, i didnt give a hug or handshake. I know we were both nervous and im sure that played a big part in it. Do you think this was a good idea for me to do? Do you think there will be a second date and how do i tell if she likes me or not? Let me know what you you guys think
- September 20th, 2009, 07:46 pm
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I just went on a first day with a EH member and i did the no contact thing with my date. It seemed like things were really awkward, partly because we were both nervous. I did no contact when i met her and no contact when i left, was this a good idea? I did email her explaining that i was extremely nervous and didnt know what to do and that she looked very pretty, and asked her if we could have a second date. Do you think this was a smart idea or not? Let me know what everyone thinks. Also, i didnt get her phone number on the date beecause of nerves being so high.
- September 20th, 2009, 07:54 pm
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Hey, that's a nice manly image to leave your match with. Apologizing for yourself for no reason. Good luck fella.
- September 20th, 2009, 07:58 pm
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Natedogg2k4 wrote :
I just went on a first day with a EH member and i did the no contact thing with my date. It seemed like things were really awkward, partly because we were both nervous. I did no contact when i met her and no contact when i left, was this a good idea? I did email her explaining that i was extremely nervous and didnt know what to do and that she looked very pretty, and asked her if we could have a second date. Do you think this was a smart idea or not? Let me know what everyone thinks. Also, i didnt get her phone number on the date beecause of nerves being so high.
If you have her email address, maybe you can relax, take your time, and compose a nice email saying how you really enjoyed spending time with her and would enjoy seeing her again. Read through it a few times for spelling and to make sure you are comfortable with what it says. If she agrees to see you again, set the time and place for the next date right away. The 2nd time, things should be a little more relaxed because you have a better idea of where you stand.

Oops, sorry. Didn't catch the 2nd post where you already emailed her. If she agrees, make sure you set an actual time and place fairly soon.
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