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Rob_UK wrote :
to shake things up why not try a high five and secret handshake
You were around, but earlier this year someone actually got a high five at the end of the date and was wondering how to interpret it.
- July 3rd, 2009, 06:08 pm
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You were around, but earlier this year someone actually got a high five at the end of the date and was wondering how to interpret it.
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No way!!!!!? How much fun was that person - theres the thing - high five at the begining and then teach each other a secret handshake for the end of the date - if nothing else it will get you to hold hands and have something interesting to discuss .lol



Highfive, how awesome - *rob wanders off chuckling and marvelling at human goofiness*
- July 4th, 2009, 06:22 am
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I went out with one guy and had some great conversation over dinner. We had been emailing for about a week when we met, so we seemed to kind of know each other already. After dinner, we went for a walk in a shopping area and he put his arm around me. For some reason, it just was awkward trying to walk that way, so I opted for holding his hand instead.

We dated for a couple of weeks more, and he admitted later that having his arm around me and kissing me later that night was fine, but holding my hand just felt too intimate for a first date. Huh? So I guess that means you never know what the other person is thinking and it may not always seem logical.

Me? I like a hug when we meet and a kiss when when we part (a hug if it just didn't click).

Having said that, the last couple of guys have thrown me for a loop. Even after the 2nd date, they barely wanted to kiss me. I finally asked one that I have become friends with (Do I have bad breath? Just not aging well? What???) and he said "It's a respect thing." So I guess I should be happy, as opposed to paranoid that they're not interested.
- July 4th, 2009, 07:50 am
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I'm surprised by reading here how many first dates DON'T end in some sort of physical connection.

Me? If the first date has been good, I pretty much expect there will be hug, followed by a kiss at the end. If there's not, I assume it wasn't as good for the guy as it was for me.

I did have a guy once who, on a date to the zoo, wanted to hold my hand the ENTIRE time. And he'd stare at me... a creepy kind of stare. When I'd catch him at it he'd say "Isn't it romantic how every time I look at you, you look at me?" I was seriously creeped out by this guy, to the point of feeling nauseated, and couldn't wait to get home. My gut told me there was something seriously wrong with that guy. He wrote me afterward about how great a connection he felt and that he had a feeling that someday we'd be telling our grandkids about our first date. Uh... no. Dude, didn't you notice when I ran out of your car, telling you I felt nauseated? I wrote back and kindly said I didn't feel any connection and did not want to see him again.

But... if the guy didn't creep me out I wouldn't mind holding hands for PART of the date! And if we're sitting across from each other over a glass of wine, reaching out and touching the other's hand during conversation lets me know we're really feeling a good connection.
- July 4th, 2009, 03:13 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
we went for a walk in a shopping area and he put his arm around me. For some reason, it just was awkward trying to walk that way, so I opted for holding his hand instead.

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Me? I like a hug when we meet and a kiss when when we part (a hug if it just didn't click).



You have it modulated perfectly. I never met anyone like that, -- sure wish I could.

I must be waaaaaay too "respectful." Or something.
- July 4th, 2009, 03:54 pm
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Am I the only one wondering how she's going to end that post
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I love a little bit of physical contact on that first date if we're connecting. If we're in a crowded place, either guide me through with your hand on my back or hold my hand and lead me through. Makes me feel like you're concerned about me, I guess. A sweet litle kiss at the end seems like a perfect ending to a nice evening to me. I am from the South where we do tend to be a bit more touchy-feely, so maybe that has something to do with it...
- July 4th, 2009, 10:10 pm
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Great post! and good timing. I had date #2 yesterday with a guy I met on-line a few weeks ago.
Date #1 - handshake introduction, no physical contact at the end of the date, we just parted.
Date #2 - no physical contact when we met up and a handshake as we parted.
Date #3? - it ended after date #2.

I intiated the handshakes.
- July 5th, 2009, 09:44 pm
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inn wrote :
Great post! and good timing. I had date #2 yesterday with a guy I met on-line a few weeks ago.
Date #1 - handshake introduction, no physical contact at the end of the date, we just parted.
Date #2 - no physical contact when we met up and a handshake as we parted.
Date #3? - it ended after date #2.

I intiated the handshakes.
Wow, how romantic! I'm so very sorry...
- July 5th, 2009, 09:50 pm
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A 7 hrs date with a man that never inquired about who I am! I would have ended it after 2 hrs, but we we're on his boat in the midst of the lake.
My mistake for going on such a lenghty date. lesson learned.
- July 5th, 2009, 09:59 pm
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