Hi ANWmo1..

As with all stories here... none of readers here have any understanding of the actual progression of your communication or the content of the information shared within it. That said... no matter how you represented yourself... his conduct is deplorable! Firstly, I would say that if someone wants to bow out of a date with another, it should be done gracefully. It should also be done without use of venomous characterizations and insults. Even if you were to have misrepresented yourself, there's no excuse for being so incredibly rude and insensitive to you!

I have met women who have clearly misrepresented themselves in both age and weight. The particular woman I am thinking of actually posted several full body photographs from professional settings. She really did look very slim and youthful... little did I know that they were 7 years old. Her current physique and look is far different from what was represented. We still went out (I found out when we met). We had an absolutely atrocious evening as she is also rude, insensitive and vulgar. It's a long story, but it's very safe to say that we did not hit it off. It had little to do with her look. Her inside was far more unattractive than her exterior could ever be.

I have also had women tell me that they were not slim, but average. That description (both age and physical size) was very accurate... the woman to which I refer is a very attractive woman and I did not feel mislead in anyway (I went on to see her). Bottom line here is this... as long as you were honest and up front about your self description, you did your best. At that point... it's a matter of personal taste.... the eye of the beholder is a subjective thing at best, but we're all subject to it's scrutiny.

I'm really very sorry that you were treated so awfully... I truly would not use the word "Man" to describe the infantile behaviour of your date. Even with his personal preferences, he is clearly insensitive and likely vain. He probably did you a favour in ending things so early on.

I can begin to imagine how you feel as I was once more than ample (for my size) and was often chided for it. I was certainly not noticed by the opposite sex, but such is life. I've always known who I am on the inside and that's what counts. I can remember being at a party and talking to a lovely young woman. We were having a great conversation and because of how I was seated, she could not really see my size (I was about 25lbs heavy and it was flab). Other people at the party (guys) got her away from me and told her... she went cold instantly and that was that. It hurt, but at least she didn't insult me verbally.

Be thankful that you have a beautiful interior... your exterior can be changed if you so desire, but your date... well let's just say that he's got an awful lot more work to do to change what's on the inside.

Keep your chin up... be honest with yourself and love who you are. You are a unique creation and will one day find someone who will appreciate you and your son for who you are on the inside and he will love the complete package!

I hope you'll dismiss this person as being nothing more than insensitive, callous and not worthy of you! Time heals all wounds and this one too will heal. Have a great day.

Tim