Folly of minimizing attraction and chemistry

If it was me and my post that you are referring to - I just want to clarify that my comments weren't directed at Walter - these are just things I have thought in general - and over a period of time.

I am married and the reason I started posting here is because I have a friend who is single and getting along in years and I paid half of his fees to get him started because I love my friend (who is stubburn and doesn't listen by the way - but I love him dearly) I'm trying to help him stop being a hermit (because that's what real friends do - they help each other even when they're being blockheads)

Anyways when I signed him up I stumbled upon this advice thread thing and since blogging can be cool - I signed up because it's free. I am not here to attract anyone - like I said I am married - but I went through a lot being single and I have a heart for single folk (especially Christian single folk trying to have integrity in their dating lives) and I want to possible say something that might help someone along their way.

The issue of attraction is personal,what i see here are people knocking other peopole's standards of attraction,it's nobody's business what someone else finds attractive or for what reasons.
The other thing is people who are not having much success at dating who lash out at others who they feel are rejecting them,usualy claiming some moral high ground such as "inner beauty"...beauty ,inner or outer once again is a personal observation and decision,how i choose a mate is my affair,if i make the wrong choice for the wrong reason i pay for it,not you.
The differences in how men and women choose a mate is is just that different...women accuse men of being too "visual" and claim that an attractive woman may be shallow,stupid or of little depth...well does a charming convincing personality guarantee a good man ? most con men and crooks possess such a personality..are they good men ? how about"confidence"...how's that working for ya...does confidence gaurantee a good man ? how about money ? problem is a man with money can get a new woman when he want's one and is alway being pursued by them if he has alot of money....bottom line is that women's methods,standards and priorities offer no more guarantees than men's do...why not just live and let live instead of debating,criticising and expecting other peole to either abandon or justify their standards in favor of your's.