I love you but I don't know what that means


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4ever29 is offline 4ever29 Post #1  May 20,2009, 8:19am
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If anyone read the to date or not to date post you may understand this situation a bit better. I was visisting with my Not boyfrind last night and he had a few too many drinks, we went back to his place and sat outside on the deck talking it was a beautiful record breaking high kind of night.Sitting under the stars. When he looked at me and said "I love you but I don't know what that means."

Ok I really don't know what that means. He said he didn't want to lose me and does not want to take the chance of me finding someone better. He told me he knows that he has been a jerk at times but that if I wanted he would like me to be his girlfriend again. I would love to but he has been drinking - a lot.

I text him this morning (our main form of communication) and asked him if he meant what he said or if he even remembered the conversation. He said he thinks so and wants to talk later today about it. I did not remind him of our conversation I want to see if he has a clue as to what he told me. Which (if he remembers) was a lot a very pationate and a deeply meaningful conversation

So my question here is 1st - What does "I love you, but I don't know what that means" mean? 2nd - Should I believe anything he says when he has been drinking?
 
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he could be....ironic?
or it could be the drinking, i guess when you have that conversation and he remembers exactly what he has said, have you been friends for a while?
as far as your second question goes, if he has said something or done something in the past does he follow up on it?
 
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This happens a lot when you have sex before you know someone well. I'm not saying that this is the case, just that it happens...

He's obviously in a state of counfusion... The key words I read were that he doesn't want to lose you... That to me could mean that his feelings are pronounced, perhaps over pronounced, but he doesn't know you well enough to know whether he is compatible with you or not.

I would seriously consider bowing out for awhile and leave him to his thoughts.
 
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4ever29 wrote :
So my question here is 1st - What does "I love you, but I don't know what that means" mean? 2nd - Should I believe anything he says when he has been drinking?

It means he doesn't know wtf all the blathering is about when he simply has feelings for you. Some people don't know what love is, because to them it's not that big of deal.

It's like "I like to Twitter, but I don't know what the point is". Twitter is glorified Email/blogging. Why have a whole website for it? It's not that big of deal.


And NO, don't believe anything anyone says when they're drunk. It may be true, but people get way too emotional when they are drunk.
 
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