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goldengirl7676 is offline goldengirl7676 Post #1  May 19,2009, 5:04pm
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OK, a third match has now reached the point of OC. He is the one who initiated things and has now sent me a message, but I don't know if I am to take it as creativity on his part or think of it as just being a little odd.

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Here is an interesting question. If you were gonna write a letter to Dear Abby about our first meeting what would it say? Mr. X (not his real name)

So no hi, how-are-you or anything like that. I'm not sure how I am supposed to respond to this one. I haven't even gotten to talk/e-mail with the guy yet and he's asking me what I would say to Dear Abby about our first meeting? I don't get it.
 
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I take it as witty, humor. You could use it to your advantage. Write about the perfect date. Just for fun.
 
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Interesting. If I was lukewarm on the person, I would close them and not bother.

If I liked them I might spoof this, or deflect it, depending on our prior communication.
 
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What the he!! is Dear Abbey doing on our date?
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I’d have to take our previous communication into consideration.

I’ve got a pretty broad range to my sense of humor. If I chose to play along with this, first thing I’d go after is the assumption he was making that I would find such a question to be interesting in the first place.
 
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Generally I would take this kind of e-mail as a funny opening line rather than the same old boring "hi how are you"
However, people generally write to Dear Abby if they have a problem...but maybe he does not know that, so just treat it as a creative way of asking what kind of date you enjoy.
 
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Dear Abbey Dear Abbey do I have regrets
I'm sharing my life with someone I haven't met
He longs to be near me or wouldn't reply
What I'm kinda wondering is why Abbey why?

Dear "regrets you've not met yet"
What I'M wondering why
Is do you not talk to him to find out why?
Too creative? Too what then? I don't understand
Why you'd join for money then not talk to the man!

DUH!!!
 
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I typically don't play a lot of cutesy reindeer games with a potential match prior to our first meeting. I am thinking that the match on the other end is probably nervous enough as it is, not knowing who I am yet. Better to keep things relatively straightforward than to get too cute and unintentionally scare her away.

And I agree OP...it's an interesting premise, but it's putting the cart before the horse -- you two haven't met yet.
 
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tbesq wrote :
I typically don't play a lot of cutesy reindeer games with a potential match prior to our first meeting. I am thinking that the match on the other end is probably nervous enough as it is, not knowing who I am yet. Better to keep things relatively straightforward than to get too cute and unintentionally scare her away.

And I agree OP...it's an interesting premise, but it's putting the cart before the horse -- you two haven't met yet.
Exactly. I guess I'm not used to this sort of thing, so it threw me a bit. In all of my on-off relationship with EH, I've never had a match start off OC like that. It's always been a quick, friendly, straightforward
note to say hi. The one other thing that caught my attention about this guy was that on his profile, for his occupation he put "tell you later." Now I'm not one to pick and choose a guy based on his career, but what's with all the secrecy? I mean, is this guy in the Mafia or something?
 
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He's trying to be romantic and woo you. This is like a question from the old The Dating Game. Very cheesy and high schoolish IMO. I'm guessing he has no idea what to say to you so he's trying to make cute conversation.

I'd answer him with: Dear Abby, why would I want to be with a guy who uses the word "gonna?"
 
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