Ladies -- will you date younger guys?


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herbalgirl is offline herbalgirl Post #91  June 29,2009, 9:15am
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I've dated my share of older women and draw the line at 4-5 years my senior. I just don't feel comfortable with someone beyond that range. Recently I was selected on another dating site by a 65-year-old retiree (I'm 52) and had to respond with thanks, but no thanks. Apparently she didn't see the little footnote in my profile. No offense to anyone, but I'm not looking for a big sister.
 
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I don't have much time- but as a quick reply, I generally find I'm attracted more to younger men because I look and act pretty young for my age overall, so often times younger men are interested (I'm 28 but people usually guess my age between 19-23 and most guys that like me right now are about 20-25). The thing about a younger man thats good too is that men generally die younger than women, so if my lifepartner is younger, statistically we'd be more likely to die around the same age. If the right guy comes along and he's older, thats fine too. Age is important to a certain degree, but that's all. My "ex" husband (still going through divorce paperwork- not my choice at ALL) is 5 years younger than me and I question if he was really as ready for the reality of marriage (VERY hard, yet rewarding IF you work on the marriage together), which makes me think a younger man may not have been the best choice- then again, maybe it happened for a reason. And maybe the next younger man I marry (if I happen to marry a younger man again) will really mean "till death do you part" and strive to work together with me on all our little disagreeances.
 
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I am 55 and lately have tried dating men of many different ages. I seem to be attracted to men close to my age or a little younger, but most of the younger men I have dated have been concerned with the age difference more than I. I also look young and act young for my age and have mostly 40-45 year old friends. Not sure what is going on?
 
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Never have in the past, my relationships were always very long term, with exception of friendly dates where it was mutually known by both of us that it was to have fun and talk with no physical or sexual expectations. I may consider dating someone a couple years younger depending on his intellect,maturity and sense of humor. What I guess I'm saying is I wouldn't rule it out.
 
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I definitely have and would again.

I'm 36, and am not looking to get married any time soon, so why not.

Younger guys just seem more fun and laid back.
 
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I've seen younger guys that are mature. Those - I'm willing to date. To me it's about maturity rather than age...
 
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I'm not sure if having younger brothers has anything to do with it, but I would feel I'm dating one of my younger brothers or even my son if I had one.

I'm the only sister who is in the middle of 2 older brothers and 2 (one is a 1/2 brother) younger ones. The younger ones are 43 and almost 30. I was 16 1/2 years old when my youngest brother was born, and I was like a second mother to him, by helping my mother out.

So the feeling that I have of being the older sister, or a mother to son would be awkward. I’m much more comfortable with dating men who are either my own age (46) or up to 10 years older, but no more.

Besides, I wouldn't want to be labeled a "Cougar".
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I would (and have) dated younger guys (and guys ten years older), however I've found that as I was in my mid to late twenties the men my age and younger tended to be pretty immature and even stunted emotionally....it's like they were still dependent on mom and dad, or else they hit their early twenties, entered party and/or player mode, and weren't ready to leave it until their thirties....which is where I now find myself still looking for someone within five to ten years of my own age who's not already taken. Most of the men who were mature in their early twenties tended to get snatched up in college. Interesting info: Statistically, women live about ten years longer than men...so maybe it's in our best interests to date a younger man so we don't end up a widower for our last decade....if we can find a mature one like yourself apparently, that is.
 
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You bet! I prefer younger men. I'm almost 45, but I've dated men as young as 27, and if that makes me a "cougar," then so be it. Age is just a number. If a guy has the qualities I'm looking for and is mature, etc., why not? Plus, I find that some men who are older than me act "old." On the other hand, I don't rule out dating an older man. It's really all about compatibility and chemistry, not a chronological age.

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Not sure if there has been a thread about this in the past or not. But it is an interesting question. As I mentioned in another thread recently, I am nearing 21; however, most of the women I am matched with on eHarmony are 3-4 years older than I am. My ex was 5 years older than I. I think part of this is that most guys my age are not looking for a real relationship but rather sex buddies (to put it nicely). I have never been that kind of guy, I have thought about becoming that kind of guy but I don't think I would be happy in the end. The problem is, I have encountered a lot of women who want older guys. So I am curious, do you date younger guys or if you don't what is your reasoning.
 
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