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Djiin is offline Djiin Post #1  May 15,2009, 8:45am
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I am still pretty young and a late bloomer I guess you could say.

I got good practice in High School however but obviously can’t say I have my game down pact.

I still misread or foolishly say or give the wrong signal most of the time.

But I am glad to have found a place were real women give real advice!!! I have read a lot of responses and have found lots of really great advice!! Thank you much ladies!

However, my current situation feels like it's a few days late for this advice but maybe you ladies and guys can help a noob youngster lol.

I take my dog to the dog park every day. Not to really meet someone, but a few weeks ago it just so happened that a girl comes into the park. We both have Huskies, hers is female mine is male ( I know perfect situation!! lol). So she comes up and starts talking we exchanged names and I really think she is interested!! oops!! wait my nervousness and shyness take over when I notice not a wedding ring but a promise ring on her left ring finger. She then starts talking about her boyfriend, but she starts telling me that he moved out of town and doesn't treat her so good (doesn't really want to spend time with her makes excuses ,btw he is only an hr drive from here). I don't know if I should take this as a hint to flirt and get a date or if she just wants to vent her frustration. She put thought into her answers and when we found out we felt the same way she sort of give me a playful touch on the chest or arm. This made me feel even more uncomfortable I never ran into this situation before. I smiled and talked for a while but never really flirted or made a move. She wants to breed our dogs.

I think this is a kool idea.
Few days later we exchange numbers but she starts talkn about her boyfriend in conversation again but without saying anything is wrong with the relationship not saying it is going good either.. Our dogs are too young to mate but she still texts me every day wanting to get together, and I find myself not knowing what to do more and more and I feel the opportunity is slipping away if there even is one still!!

She is older than me by a year more mature then the

Girls I have been with before and it's really intimidating. More I get to know her the more I like this girl, I have been in love before and can recognize some what if a girl is just a "good friend" if you get my drift or someone I want to be with seriously. I really think she is someone I want to be with seriously.

But I just seem to be mucking the situation up right from the get go!

I wish I had more experience but aye I’m just a hopeless romantic beginner lol.

Sorry this was so long I hope someone takes time out of their day to help a youngster out..

Thank you much.
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scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #2  May 15,2009, 8:52am

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you shouldn't breed dogs if you don't know what you are doing.

and, there are plenty of dogs in shelters that need adopting.
 
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oh, and she has a BF and is messing with you. stay away from girls like this.
 
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You sure like those smiley faces, huh?
If I meet a gal that has a boyfriend and that flirts with me and wants to get together with me (cheat), I look at her as someone that I can't trust and wouldn't get into a relationship with her-ever. Don't fool yourself that think that you're just that awesome that she can't resist you. If YOU get into a relationship with her, she WILL trade you in for the next sucker with a cute puppy. Get it?
Now if you just want sex, then that's up to you. Go for it I guess. You're young and I know what goes on in young guy's minds. But don't confuse her integrity (or lack of it) with her willingness to want to be with you.
 
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oops, I accidentally posted twice
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Yeah, for a long term thing, I wouldn't even consider it. She has a bf and apparently some issues too that she needs to resolve before she can be available to somebody else. She'll just string you along until she decides what to do with her current situation.
 
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Djiin wrote :

Sorry this was so long I hope someone takes time out of their day to help a youngster out..

Thank you much.
You could tell her that you like her and that, if her situation changes (that she no longer has a boyfriend), she should look you up then. It would be okay to say that you are not comfortable getting involved with her when you know she has someone else ... and a ring.

This way you are stating your character and encouraging her to be faithful to her situation, the bf and herself really.

You both should get your huskies spayed and neutered.

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scarlet13 wrote :
you shouldn't breed dogs if you don't know what you are doing.

and, there are plenty of dogs in shelters that need adopting.
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boccabum wrote :
You sure like those smiley faces, huh?
If I meet a gal that has a boyfriend and that flirts with me and wants to get together with me (cheat), I look at her as someone that I can't trust and wouldn't get into a relationship with her-ever. Don't fool yourself that think that you're just that awesome that she can't resist you. If YOU get into a relationship with her, she WILL trade you in for the next sucker with a cute puppy. Get it?
Now if you just want sex, then that's up to you. Go for it I guess. You're young and I know what goes on in young guy's minds. But don't confuse her integrity (or lack of it) with her willingness to want to be with you.
Yes to this and to what Scarlet said.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
you shouldn't breed dogs if you don't know what you are doing.

and, there are plenty of dogs in shelters that need adopting.
(I'm new so if +"1" means you agree then...)
+2

Edit: I just noticed that I have 53 posts...how the heck did that happen in 1 week? Maybe I'm not new but simply clueless and using that as an excuse! lol
 
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