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Vinsa81 is offline Vinsa81 Post #1  May 13,2009, 12:13pm
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Yes, times are tough financially right now, although I am staying afloat just fine, my "disposable" income is not where I like to see it. It will bounce back once some of my unexpected expenses are taken care of, but there is a guy that I have been communicating with that I would like to go out with, and soon. I am not sure if it is out of line for me to ask him out but suggest a cheap date so that he doesn't ask and opts. for something a little more costly.

I am not the type to expect the guy to pay, and will offer, I just don't want to put myself in the situation where I cannot afford to split the bill.

This would be our first date if it happens, and I don't want to start off on the wrong foot. Any suggestions for low cost dates? Is inviting him over for pizza, video games and beer on the first date a no, no?!?! Any help?
 
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"This would be our first date if it happens, and I don't want to start off on the wrong foot. Any suggestions for low cost dates? Is inviting him over for pizza, video games and beer on the first date a no, no?!?! Any help?"

This would probably be a bit much if you have never met the guy in Real Life.

How about suggesting a meeting for coffee? That way you could plan to buy yours.

Then if you feel comfortable and interested you could invite him for pizza.
 
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Don't invite him to your place for the first date. Meet him at a pizza place or grab a burger at Johnny Rocket's or Cheeburger Cheeburger. Neither one is very expensive and all offer the quick escape option if it doesn't go good. If you like the guy and want to stay awhile, you can get a couple beers and finish the pizza or take your time with that giant shake at the burger place.
 
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if this is an online thing, do not make the first date at your place or his.

why not just get a coffee or something for the first date, then dinner out somewhere less costly like pizza for the second.

after you find out he's not a serial killer then you can invite him over.
 
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Vinsa81 wrote :
Yes, times are tough financially right now, although I am staying afloat just fine, my "disposable" income is not where I like to see it. It will bounce back once some of my unexpected expenses are taken care of, but there is a guy that I have been communicating with that I would like to go out with, and soon. I am not sure if it is out of line for me to ask him out but suggest a cheap date so that he doesn't ask and opts. for something a little more costly.

I am not the type to expect the guy to pay, and will offer, I just don't want to put myself in the situation where I cannot afford to split the bill.

This would be our first date if it happens, and I don't want to start off on the wrong foot. Any suggestions for low cost dates? Is inviting him over for pizza, video games and beer on the first date a no, no?!?! Any help?
Nothing is out of line. Pizza, video games, beer, do what feels right to you.

Personally, I very much dislike expensive dates (but I also prefer a man to pay on the first date but to each their own!). I'm casual and low key and like the dates to reflect that. So hopefully pizza and beer is right in your comfort zone.

Remember, everyone is struggling right now. But I wouldn't mention money woes. Too much a downer. If he suggests somewhere crazy expensive, than I would bring it up. Otherwise, I would just play it by ear.
 
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meet him at a starbucks and have coffee or whatever.

I wouldn't invite anyone over to my place for the first date.
 
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Yep coffee or somewhere else public is usually fine for a first date. It's cheap and pretty safe. Like someone else posted, if the guy wants to go somewhere expensive just say you rather meet for coffee or whatever. There's no reason to meet at the frenchie oooh lala $$ restaurant for a first date, except that the guy wants to impress you with his cash.
 
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All my dates have been at pubs, diners, and small ethnic restaurants. The total bill has always been $40 or less - including the tip...and this is in NYC. Diners give you the biggest bang for your buck - for $10-$15 each, you get a decent meal and they don't mind if you linger to talk.
 
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The coffee shop is a good idea for a first meeting. After you have met him and are ready for a true date then hit the newspapers for events/activities that are coming up. There are always some activities that are free and some with inexpensive admission charges. This way it does not break either one of you. Do not forget the old standby of a picnic lunch at a park. You can pack a small lunch and bring a cooler with a chilled bottle of wine.
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