Extroverts attracted to Introverts (vice versa)


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healthb is offline healthb Post #1  May 12,2009, 11:19am
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I know EH talks about attracting people who are similar to them, and while I agree there is some truth to this, I find myself very attracted to introverts. ..and what's more, when I was on eH, most of my longest relationships were with introverts.

Curious, do youhave a preference for introverts or extroverts? Do you believe you are attracted to certain personality types? Why or why not?
 
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Interesting - I have been reading up on which personality types work well with others. I hear that introverts and extroverts do quite well together. I also know about many successfulrelationships where the woman isan extrovertand the man is an introvert. There are compromises though, which I find in my own relationships, i.e. often women go to parties alone and men get their space. I think as long as the needs of the other person are respected, everything is okay.

Years ago, I found this website called socionics that matched people based on Myers-Briggs. It told me ENFJs do well with ISTJs. Others put ENFJs with INTJs and INTPs, or occassionally INFPs. Not sure, but it's a fascinating topic to me, and I often wonder which personality types are best together?
 
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I'm an ISTJ, and I definitely prefer extroverted men. They make me feel a bit more energized and at ease in social situations. Unfortunately, it seems that a high percentage of introverted men from a different popular dating website are attracted to my profile, but when we meet in person, or I say that I am introverted, they are turned off. One match I have meet on E-Harmony seemed introverted, and I think we both thought the date was a little dull. What is it about introverted men that you like???
 
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ENFJ engaged to an ISTJ.....yup, opposites attract!!
But we aren't an eHarmony couple; we met on match.com.
 
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graceventually wrote :
ENFJ engaged to an ISTJ.....yup, opposites attract!!
But we aren't an eHarmony couple; we met on match.com.
I can honestly say that i've always been attracted to introverts... it's just worked out that way.

... I'm not part of an 'eHarmony' couple either... well... not really
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I am an introvert and I prefer to date introverts. The problem is most woman are not attracted to an introverted guy.
 
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I have also dated an ENFP, the polar opposite of an ISTJ. I could not relate in any way to his way of thinking. There are too many differences between ISTJs and ENFPs. Visit personalitypage.com for descriptions of personailities. It is very interesting. You can find out your personality on humanmetrics.com
 
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I'm an ENFP and proud of it. Interesting thread. While I am attracted to outgoing women (and offline have great friendships with them) I also crave for an introverted woman.

Our energies would intertwine well...Where can I find one? Is there a store I can order one from?*

ISTJ, I'll have to read about them.

* I believe in the near future we will have services where we can put in an order for a "roomate." This is based on a Sci Fi movie I saw. Kurt Vonnegut Jr in Fahrenheit?
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BR2 wrote :
I'm an ISTJ, and I definitely prefer extroverted men. They make me feel a bit more energized and at ease in social situations. Unfortunately, it seems that a high percentage of introverted men from a different popular dating website are attracted to my profile, but when we meet in person, or I say that I am introverted, they are turned off. One match I have meet on E-Harmony seemed introverted, and I think we both thought the date was a little dull. What is it about introverted men that you like???

Introverted women can be extremely sexy. What woman is not sexy in her natural environment? Ack I gotta check my tetosterone level. It might be too high today... A date dull? Oh my...there's a million and one things you can do on a date. Er ok only about a thousand things you can do...

But so much to talk about. Or listen to. Some women can hypnotize a man just with her voice. Sh! That's Man Secret # 7. Don't tell too many people...

Holy Heckle and Jyde, I feel like Spock who hasn't mated in awhile...this is a private forum right?
 
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I'm in introvert and while I am initially attracted to extroverts because they are generally a bit more friendly on the onset, I have found that I am more comfortable with other introverts. I don't like going out all the time and being around a lot of people, whereas extroverts thrive on that. Likewise, when I want to go to someplace quiet or stay at home, they get bored. Extroverts get their energy from others, while being in social settings drains introverts. It takes me a couple of days to recover from going to a party or nightclub. It seems so much easier to just be able to be on the same wavelength.
 
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