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Asking someone out on a date need not be nerve-wracking. The simple truth is that most single people would love to be asked out to coffee or dinner!
- May 8th, 2009, 04:28 am
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I suggest you actually use the word "date" when you ask. Believe it or not, some people won't realize that you actually want a date unless you use the word "date"! Men and women both!
- June 24th, 2009, 09:14 am
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This is an interesting article, and one of the few articles I actually took the time to read on here as I am one of those people who have a tendency to approach asking a lady out like I would a high pressure sales call. I am a very analytical person and can spend weeks thinking of negative things that could go wrong when asking someone out before I ask that person out. I honestly wish getting over this was as easy done as it is said.
- June 24th, 2009, 09:43 am
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I've never asked a man on a date and I probably should, but I haven't met anyone with whom I've had chemistry in a while. I'd LOVE to be asked out on a date.
- June 24th, 2009, 10:25 am
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I don't think one should nececarily put the label "date" onto an endevour. Through my personal experience, (and trust me, I have a lot of experience playing at romance), it proves to put far to much pressure on both the individuals. When you simply ask someone to "hang out" or my personal favorite "do nothing", it's a much more relaxed environment.

Just ask the lovely lass or gentleman out to catch a film or a cup of tea- if he/she wants it to be more, it'll show.

-Light J.
- June 24th, 2009, 03:46 pm
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lkellyr wrote :
I'd LOVE to be asked out on a date.

Oh, but you are on the wrong side of the country!
- June 24th, 2009, 08:10 pm
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doctorx0079 wrote :
I suggest you actually use the word "date" when you ask.
I'd suggest quite the opposite. That word alone is too much pressure for the first meet up. I prefer to meet casually as friends and see what develops. It maybe nothing, or just friendship or more. Works much better for me personally.
- June 24th, 2009, 08:33 pm
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A date? What's a date?

Seriously, though, I'd have to agree with those who sided against using the word date. There's an implication there of a commitment when you use the word date, and if you're going out for the first time there is no commitment between you. Keep it low key and don't worry so much about defining it. I find I feel much more comfortable that way.
- June 24th, 2009, 08:49 pm
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Another "non-date." I say this because the first "date" for me is there to recognize if there *is* interest, chemistry, compatibility… It’s getting to know the other person- still necessary for me, even if you’ve been communicating through eha. Very, very important for me. "First" date for me has to have some opportunity to talk at length, too- no movies, or dancing. It’s there to show your interest and let the other person see you acting on it.

That said, I’m still working on getting a first date.
- June 24th, 2009, 09:33 pm
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Wootz wrote :
That said, I’m still working on getting a first date.
You will, of that I have no doubt.
- June 24th, 2009, 09:46 pm
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