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Taking a look at the past can ensure a brighter future. When you identify patterns from previous relationships -- and correct them -- you'll enable the next one to be lasting and fulfilling.
- May 8th, 2009, 04:27 am
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One of my big ones, is that i need to stop allowing my feelings to cloud my judgment of people and look at their actions and not their words.
- June 15th, 2009, 10:23 am
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What a great article. I have never really dated in my whole life. I went from my parents strict home to getting married my sophomore year of college.  Then I got divorced and thought things happened as quickly as they did with my first real relationship.  So, I've been going out thinking every date would eventually lead to marriage, but it SO doesn't work that way apparently.  I just figured if a guy made the first move then he was serious about marriage and I thought that meant we should fast-forward our relationship to just get to that part.  Guess that has been scaring my potential partners! 


It is kinda sad, but I'm going to have to LEARN how to date and I'm in my mid 30s.  I've never really dated around.  This whole concept is a little frightening to me. 

- August 2nd, 2009, 04:34 am
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Now I'm completely lost, never to be found again...


I don't have types or signposts, I've dated people of different cultural and religious backgrounds, I don't place relationships in their typical places. And to top it all off... I've never been attracted to bad boys (at least not according to my personal dictionary)! Cool


Now I'm reeaally scared that I will never be able to break my bad dating patters, no 4 ways about it! CryLaughing

- August 2nd, 2009, 05:32 am
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The universe will keep offering us the same lessons time after time, until we actually learn them.

Unfortunately some of us have ADD.
- August 2nd, 2009, 06:44 am
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gothustartus wrote :
The universe will keep offering us the same lessons time after time, until we actually learn them.

Unfortunately some of us have ADD.

Some of us also know how to SUBTRACT, MULTIPLY & even go DUTCH!
- August 2nd, 2009, 07:03 am
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gothustartus wrote :
The universe will keep offering us the same lessons time after time, until we actually learn them.

Unfortunately some of us have ADD.

I was about to go "awwwwww!!!! he's a philosopher like me!!!" and then you cracked the joke, and so.... Awwwwwwww!!!!!! He's a philosopher with a sense of humor like me!!!!!!

Me

P.S.: I guess the article tries to begin to address the many, many patterns of insecurity and other such troubles that dating incites. However, I think they didn't even touch the surface on what goes on that we keep having unsuccessful dates. From my point of view, it's all about being who you are. When the student is ready, the master shows up, right? Well, same thing here. When I'm ready, the right guy will turn up.
- August 2nd, 2009, 07:04 am
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Excellent...
lifeislearning wrote :
One of my big ones, is that i need to stop allowing my feelings to cloud my judgment of people and look at their actions and not their words.
- August 2nd, 2009, 07:18 am
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Wiseman2 wrote :
Excellent...
That's too wise, Wiseman...
I'm better at interperting words and assigning them with all kinds of meanings - it's the female brain, of course.
- August 2nd, 2009, 07:38 am
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When the student is ready, the master shows up, right? Well, same thing here. When I'm ready, the right guy will turn up.
Just remember... Wax on, wax off.
- August 2nd, 2009, 09:13 am
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