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lucky173, wrote :

“Men want sex and will do and say just about anything to get it” “Men are pigs”





I agree with the first statment and not the second


women start calling men pigs because they are constantly GIVING them sex thinking it will make a "relationship"


it doesnt work that way. when they find this out they call men pigs! astonishing


quit putting out, ladies, and i promise you will feel a lot differently!


- April 30th, 2009, 11:09 am
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I think the "men are pigs" thing came from the feminist movement in the 50s-70s and the term "male chauvinist pig". It didn't refer to men wanting sex as much as men treating women as inferior beings, i.e. "a woman should be barefoot and pregnant".





Then there's the term "men are dogs" and that refers to men sleeping around.





But why is a guy a pig for wanting to have sex? That makes no sense. Last I checked sex is a mutual thing. It's not r-a-p-e. If you don't want to have sex with a guy, don't have sex with a guy.


The same can be said with women that just want to get out of the house. Going on a date is a mutual thing, women aren't pigs for wanting a guy to take them out.


And I tend to think the main reason a man wants to be with a woman is sexually motivated. So if the guy doesn't want to sleep with you, he'd be with his friends at a basketball game or playing poker, instead of watching Sex and the City with you.


Yes, he does things for you because he wants to have sex with you. But realize that sex isn't just that 5-30 minutes of intercourse. Sexual attraction is always there. So if he's around you he's feeling fine. He doesn't need to be on top of you to feel good.


C'mon. Do you think if a guy didn't feel good around you, he'd be interested in the things you do? I mean there are plenty of things men/women have in common, but far less than those of the same sex.
- April 30th, 2009, 11:12 am
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Man, this topic really has run hog-wild.
- April 30th, 2009, 11:17 am
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tbesq wrote :

Women don't usually use men for sex, they use sex as a tool to get at something else (usually money and/or other material possessions). Men pay a tangible price for being used, women pay an intangible price.
No; the answer to that would typically be love and affection -- not material things. There are some women who sleep with men for "things," but that would be the exception. In the absence of a real relationship, women (and teens) sometimes sleep with men as a tool for feeling/getting love.
- April 30th, 2009, 11:24 am
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My last post about boy meets girl, was written in jest, just so you know LOL


TB boy says I love you to get girl to lay down, girl lays down to get loved


- April 30th, 2009, 11:25 am
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glassonlyhalffull_fillit wrote :

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I think that rejection and loss is what first started this idea that men are pigs. I've heard women say this when their boyfriends, or guys they were interested in, reject themafterthey've had sex with them. Even on these boards I've heard women say

"he was great when we first met, we dated for about 3 months. I even 'gave'him sex! Then a few weeks after, he dumped me. All he wanted was sex! Men are pigs!"

From my experience, when I rejected a woman, it was never because she had sex with me! That's a good thing! It was because of other reasons. Primarily something about her personality didn't jive me. Rather than face that reality, she'll say that I rejected her because I was the one with the problem. Because all I wanted was sex. Men are pigs.

Do some men lie about their intentions and just want sex? Of course. But don't blame those men. All adults are responsible for their own indscressions (sp?). So while there are some men that are pigs, there are also a lot of sows out there playing in the mud.




Bocca's post made me think about something.


Boy meets girl. Boy & girl have sex, Boy leaves/rejects girl after sex, girl feels used, calls boy a pig.


If girl gets sex from boy and then girl leaves/rejects boy after sex, boy feel used, calls girl pigette.


Do boys ever feel used if they find out they were just used for sex?


LOL

Unfortunately, women use men for sex as well...and yes, some of us feel hurt when that happens.
- April 30th, 2009, 12:07 pm
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4getmenot wrote :


lucky173, wrote :

“Men want sex and will do and say just about anything to get it” “Men are pigs”


in my opinion, if are going to talk about people this way then....


"The Human Race wants sex and will do and say just about anything to get it” “Humans are pigs”





Just my $.02





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- April 30th, 2009, 12:18 pm
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neardc wrote :

tbesq wrote :


Women don't usually use men for sex, they use sex as a tool to get at something else (usually money and/or other material possessions) . Men pay a tangible price for being used, women pay an intangible price.


No; the answer to that would typically be love and affection -- not material things. There are some women who sleep with men for "things," but that would be the exception. In the absence of a real relationship, women (and teens) sometimes sleep with men as a tool for feeling/getting love.
If women are "having" sex with men for love and affection, that's one thing. But if they're "using" men by having sex with them, there is usually some other motivation besides affection. And maybe it's our generational gap, but I do not believe that getting a man to give a woman things with sex is the exception. It happens all the time. That is in essence what a gold digger is, and there are more than a few of them running around.


This is not a sweeping indictment of women who want to or like to have sex, I'm just talking about the women who have sex with a man, without the affection and love attached, so that he will open his coffers to her.
- April 30th, 2009, 12:23 pm
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lucky173, wrote :

“Men want sex and will do and say just about anything to get it” “Men are pigs”

These comments were recently stated to mein conversation and I was curious to run past all of you for opinions.

Do you think these statements are basically - true or false? Why?

Does your opinion change dependent upon whether the statement is made by a man or a woman? And whether it is made in a derogatory fashion or as a matter-of-fact?



Lets step into the 21st century.





Men Like Sex: Yes for the most part. I have never met a woman who did not like sex.


Men are pigs : Depends on how you define the word, some women are slobs some men are slobs.


These are the words of a bitter person who probably needs some therapy.


- April 30th, 2009, 12:56 pm
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lucky173, wrote :

“Men want sex and will do and say just about anything to get it” “Men are pigs”

These comments were recently stated to mein conversation and I was curious to run past all of you for opinions.

Do you think these statements are basically - true or false? Why?

Does your opinion change dependent upon whether the statement is made by a man or a woman? And whether it is made in a derogatory fashion or as a matter-of-fact?



This is all true.I think men do and say stuff to women cause they wanna have mind control.
- April 30th, 2009, 01:13 pm
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