HaileyGirl is offline HaileyGirl Post #1  April 27,2009, 12:03pm
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Hi, I'm REALLY shy and don't know what I'm doing! Ihave a crush on the Subway guy. But I don't know how to ask Mr. Subway out.I tried flirting with him and he seemed to flirt back. So I take that as a good sign. But the "What If's" keep stopping me from really talking to him. What if he already has a girlfriend? What if I just totally misread him? What if he says no? I don't know how to go about asking him out but I wouldn't know what to do after I asked! I feel like such a dork when it comes to talking to guys. And the "What if's" always stop me from doing anything. I need help!
 
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #2  April 27,2009, 12:45pm
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"Hey... can I give you my number?"


Guys that learn to approach women learn that the "what ifs" you describe are death. You have to stop finding reasons to NOT DO SOMETHING.
 
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boccabum is offline boccabum Post #3  April 27,2009, 12:48pm
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HaileyGirl, wrote :

Hi, I'm REALLY shy and don't know what I'm doing! Ihave a crush on the Subway guy. But I don't know how to ask Mr. Subway out.I tried flirting with him and he seemed to flirt back. So I take that as a good sign. But the "What If's" keep stopping me from really talking to him. What if he already has a girlfriend? What if I just totally misread him? What if he says no? I don't know how to go about asking him out but I wouldn't know what to do after I asked! I feel like such a dork when it comes to talking to guys. And the "What if's" always stop me from doing anything. I need help!
Now you know what we guys have been having to go through our whole lives!!!!


OK do this. Walk up to him and say, "Hey Subway Guy. Do you want to go out with me Friday night? I thought we could meet for coffee at 8 at Starbucks. Great. It's a date".


See?


If he says "no". You have your answer. If he says "yes" you have a date. Eighter way, your world wall go on as always. If he says no, then you've made the first step and the next time you want to ask someone out, it won't be as scary. Good luck and let us know how your date went.
 
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HaileyGirl is offline HaileyGirl Post #4  April 27,2009, 12:52pm
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Thanks. I guess my biggest problem is just getting the courage to ask.
 
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HaileyGirl,595930 wrote :

Thanks. I guess my biggest problem is just getting the courage to ask.
This is a learned skill. The only way to get good at it is "just do it". Your first attempt may come out like, "I ahhahhha I ahhaahha...", but that's just life!
 
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Ask him about the $5 foot long
 
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OMG!!! I know what you feel! Girl, just go ahead and ask. It elimantes the "what ifs" and you can move along to the next one. =)
 
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I've asked a bunch of guys out, and I think the key to doing it is just to be casual about it. You don't have to approach it like it's some big deal, just "Hey would you like to hang out sometime?" is more than sufficient. It's true he may say no, maybe he has a girlfriend or whatever. But he'll probably be flattered that you asked, and I can't imagine him holding it against you. Nor should you hold it against yourself. Plus, no matter how it works out you can always take pride in yourself for having the strength and courage to make the first move towards something that could be really great for you!
 
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gtp,595981 wrote :

I've asked a bunch of guys out, and I think the key to doing it is just to be casual about it. You don't have to approach it like it's some big deal, just "Hey would you like to hang out sometime?" is more than sufficient. It's true he may say no, maybe he has a girlfriend or whatever. But he'll probably be flattered that you asked, and I can't imagine him holding it against you. Nor should you hold it against yourself. Plus, no matter how it works out you can always take pride in yourself for having the strength and courage to make the first move towards something that could be really great for you!
So gtp??? When are you going to ask me out?
 
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Stop living off the "what if's". Next time you go there have your number ready on a piece of paper and hand it to him. Tell him, "call me, maybe we can share a footlong sometime".LoL...ok maybe that doesn't sound too good or maybe it does . Seriously though, when you hand him your number say "call me, maybe we can share a sandwich sometime" (smile and don't look away). What is the worse that can happen??. Him not calling you?? Oh well, then you move on to the next subway location there is plenty!


Good luck and keep us posted!
 
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