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How important is the "money factor" when searching for a partner?
- April 24th, 2009, 09:21 pm
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I'm a big believer in not comingling finances except for one joint account. Each should have their own credit card. I would never hand over my credit card to anyone. I was married and I never did this. The thought of sharing finances with the guy was frightening, and now I know I did the right thing!
- April 24th, 2009, 09:21 pm
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If you can't trust the person you are marrying with your money, you should not marry them! That is like planning for failure!
- April 24th, 2009, 09:33 pm
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The "money factor" is wayyyyyyyyyyyyy down on my list. I don't care if he makes a lot or a little, what I do care about is they are responsible with it. For instance, much like the 2nd poster, my ex and I had sep. accounts. However, it didn't start that way. We joined accounts, he did the bills and we were always in the negative. I alwayspaid bills asap and had money left over, I couldn't stand it. So I opened my own account, he paid some bills and I paid others. Of course, he also insisted on paying his debt off first, then when that was done he left (coincidence? hmmmm).


Basically, money isn't the issue, responsibility is.
- April 24th, 2009, 10:29 pm
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Money is not at the top of my priority list, but it's not at the bottom either. If someone's marriage ended because of financial irresponsibility, it only makes since that financial responsibility will be high on that person's list for the next partner.


In the initial stages of dating, money is not much of a factor to me. If a woman came along and she was filthy rich, would I give her some consideration? Yep. I have no problem admitting that. But I've known misery in a relationship, and no amount of money in the world would have made the situation any better. So if a woman comes from money but has a terrible personality, I don't see myself marrying her.Even if my partnermakes good income, it won't matter if she doesn't handle that money properly.


- April 24th, 2009, 10:43 pm
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I understand why this could be an important issue for a woman, and I don't think it means they are a golddigger because I do think they have the right to expect a guy to be stable financially and have enough so that their lifestyle either stays the same or improves when they go from being single to married.
- April 24th, 2009, 10:44 pm
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I actually do believe in sharing everything. I don't have trust issues (which is definitely negative baggage) & would be certain that I could trust my partner before marrying her. If you are going to date me for many years just to get some of my stuff then that would be silly. That is an awful lot of energy to spend. I mean its not like your gonna get a million off of me. I also have no intention of taking anyone for a ride.


I would probably be annoyed with a woman that was a major shopper & needed to keep up with all trends including clothing & technology.Those industries are ever changing & that lifestyle would be unsustainable in all likelyhood. That is a personality that I would recognize early on & likely not stay with.


Money is not important to me at all. I can live happily on what I make. I would want my SO to work a reasonable amount & to supplement my income & savings. That way we could live pretty sweetly & ensure our comfort now & in the future.
- April 24th, 2009, 10:46 pm
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it's pretty important to me. I make good money and am pretty comfortable, but i like to travel, eat out, etc and would want a partner who was financially able to do those things *with* me.


I dated a guy whose income was significantly lower than mine ( he also had no ambition to make more, but that's another story) and it didn't work out too well, because if i wanted to go to dinner i'd have to pay, or a day trip to the city, or whatever. it got very expensive very quickly for me and frustrating.


i don't look for a guy with wads of money to spend on me. but i do think it should be equal.





- April 25th, 2009, 01:05 am
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When your other side thinks that money does matter, then it becomes important don't you think?
- April 25th, 2009, 10:43 am
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If you have some money - a little or a lot - be responsible with it. It's important to me to know how important money is to a man, though. If he's stingy it won't work. If he's laissez-faire about how much he spends/where it goes, it won't work.
- April 25th, 2009, 12:20 pm
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