I want to let him go but its so hard. How do I help myself to let him go?


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adriana1008 is offline adriana1008 Post #1  April 22,2009, 9:27pm
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Me and my ex are trying out this whole dating thing again. He asked me out again and he was the one that wanted it to be exclusive. Anyways today I had a bad day teaching (intern and I'm 22) and I am sick. I posted on my myspace status that "I am just hating life right now: Sore throat, light fever, bad headaches, bad career choice, friends moving...arghh down down hill. and that I am really sad" He saw that status but he didn't even call or comment me to say hi or say anything. I havent heard from him since Saturday. I know he saw my status because he changed his to "Just got back home, what to do. He's positive"

I feel hurt that he didn't even comment me or call to see if I am okay or something. Do I have every right to be hurt? I feel like I should just call it off and not start again if he can't even show me care when I am down.

btw, he hanged out on friday and that's when he asked me out again and texted each other on Saturday. That's the last time we spoke. I don't even know where he's taking me for our date for he hasn't call or anything. Should I just let him go?
 
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lucky173 is offline lucky173 Post #2  April 22,2009, 9:49pm
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I'm sure I'm not going to say a single word that you want to hear right now, because I'm not even going to comment about anything on your "should I just let him go?" question. I'm not going to comment on whether or not you have the right to be hurt that he didn't respond the way you expected him to, or about when the last time you two spoke was, or any of those things...


I'm going to ask you one question, I don't even expect, or need an answer.


If your status was along the lines of "feeling positive" would you really feel drawn to someone, ANYONE who's status was along the lines of "hating life right now"


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lucky173,590127 wrote :

If your status was along the lines of "feeling positive" would you really feel drawn to someone, ANYONE who's status was along the lines of "hating life right now"


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exactly I think you are overthinking this and seem a little needy. Get some other interest so you don't even think about changing or care what your mood stautus is. Who even looks at that anyway?If you need a shoulder to cry on thats what girlfriends are for.
 
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Along the lines of the other posts..... You are the only one who can choose how you feel right now, and right now, and right now. Do you want to be happy? Do what makes you happy. Do you like to exercise, do you have any hobbies, what can you bring that's new and exciting to your work, what do you do that just lights you up?
 
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I know as a man if I had come home from a trip be it work related or a seminar the last thing I would have wanted would have been brought down from a high bysomething negative. I can understand your need right now but I can also understand your boyfriend's position.


As a nuturing male if I had discovered my girlfriend was sick I would have come over to give you some serious pampering. I would have come bearing a large bowl of chicken noodle soup, a gallon of OJ and a bouquet of daisies or one red rose. I would have fed you then drawn a tub of hot water full of bubbles, lit some incense and candles and also put on some soothing music. I would have washed your back and hair then dried you off. Then I would have given you a massage complete with warm oil and tucked you into bed for a good restful sleep. I do this for my wife or variations of it when she is feeling ill. I hope you feel better soon.
 
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