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I am curiously raising this question to see what feedback is out there...


What is a healthy age range between people that are dating? Of course this depends on the ages of individuals in the first place, but what seems to be a healthy range?


Here is what I have deduced...


1. Young men think young women should date young men
2. Young men think older women can date young men
3. Older men think young women can date older men


Women, when commenting on others, have had the "age matters very little" approach from what I've seen.... it appears to be the men who have ideas around who is eligible for who...


Now I know I will hear "it all depends on the person" and that it depends on "where you are in your life" etc... but really... all things considered, in some cases is "older" just "too much older"??





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At 23, what is reasonable for me???
- April 21st, 2009, 04:40 pm
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I think the healthy age range depends on the person. I have friends who are in great relationships with men 25 years older than them and I have friends who are dating men 7 years younger than them. Me personally, I like to date men between 4-7 years older than me, but will date men whoare ten years older than me.
- April 21st, 2009, 04:49 pm
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at 23 I would not go over 29/30.


I dated 29 (oh thats right, he lied, he was 30 actually!) when I was 24 and that was a stretch. Almost predatory from what I recall.


I think the range can get larger as you get older. But early 20's, I'd stay in your own decade. Based on my experiences...
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If you keep up with this forum for very long you'll learn that many women also have opinions about what age men they want/don't want to date. It seems like part of being 23 years old is not knowing what one wants...including what age range you should date in. Part of figuring out what age man you do/don't want to be with might come from dating men outside that age range.
- April 21st, 2009, 05:19 pm
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Bringing up the old standby of "Half your age + 7" being the youngest....so at 23, 32 should really be about the upper limit...Mind you, this /does/ involve some algebra, and there are always exceptions to everything.
- April 21st, 2009, 05:34 pm
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A lot depends on what you’re looking for at your position in life.


I started with online dating at less than 25 years old, and almost didn’t care how old the women were – because I was only looking for casual situations.
- April 21st, 2009, 05:44 pm
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MichelleinMississauga, wrote :


At 23, what is reasonable for me???


Whatever you're comfortable with.


As a general rule, try to stay above 17.
- April 21st, 2009, 06:01 pm
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I've been wondering the same thing lately. As an older woman, I would actually prefer a younger man, but I really think it's the attitude that counts. However, I'm beginning to think the men around my age are mostly interested in younger women.
- April 21st, 2009, 06:14 pm
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illustrator wrote :

MichelleinMississauga, wrote :


At 23, what is reasonable for me???


Whatever you're comfortable with.


As a general rule, try to stay above 17.
LOL!


To the OP, I don't think it's age so much as maturity. I tend to date older guys, not younger because of that. But I have a friend who dated someone 12 younger and she was happy with him.


Best of luck!
- April 21st, 2009, 06:34 pm
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I would never date anyone young enough that I could be her father ... legitimately. That is when I was over 20. I wouldn't even consider it in the remotest of circumstances. I know men who have successful relationships with women 20 years younger, but its not for me.


And its not just that I find it predatory, but more that I would rather be with a woman who is close to my age who has most likely experienced much of the life experiences that I have. I can't imagine going through my 20s or 30s again with a woman that age. 40s maybe, but not younger than that.


Now I don't mean to sound judgmental, because I believe to each his own. It's just not for me.


Anybody out there about 44-48, blond hair, green or blue eyes, about 5'6" 130-140 lbs with grown children?
- April 21st, 2009, 06:44 pm
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