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I'm in my early 50's and since February I've been dating a woman who is.............23. She initiated it and I responded. It's been a great experience. We have a lot in common, primarily artistic interests (she's a dancer/musician, I'm a musician/dancer), friends in the local dance community, similiar lifestyles in certain ways (I'm self-employed, my kids have left home, so I'm living alone and don't have obligations at night) and good chemistry.


I don't expect it to last very long but it has been fun for both of us, I've actually learned a lot,and in many ways our ages are irrelevant. She has a strong sense of identity and what she wants to do, however she clearly is trying different things outand doesn't know yet how these things are going to manifest in herlife.


I decided when the possibility arose to suspend prejudice, go with flow and see what happened.


I'm VERY glad I did.


Omar
Wow, nothing I like to see more than a man look past prejudices and buck the trend... way to make a sacrifice Omar
- April 22nd, 2009, 01:46 pm
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I'm in my early 50's and since February I've been dating a woman who is.............23. She initiated it and I responded. It's been a great experience. We have a lot in common, primarily artistic interests (she's a dancer/musician, I'm a musician/dancer), friends in the local dance community, similiar lifestyles in certain ways (I'm self-employed, my kids have left home, so I'm living alone and don't have obligations at night) and good chemistry.


I don't expect it to last very long but it has been fun for both of us, I've actually learned a lot,and in many ways our ages are irrelevant. She has a strong sense of identity and what she wants to do, however she clearly is trying different things outand doesn't know yet how these things are going to manifest in herlife.


I decided when the possibility arose to suspend prejudice, go with flow and see what happened.


I'm VERY glad I did.


Omar


Wow, nothing I like to see more than a man look past prejudices and buck the trend... way to make a sacrifice Omar
Do I detect sarcasm?


No trend here for me personally, this is a first.


Yours, O.
- April 22nd, 2009, 03:04 pm
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I'm in my early 50's and since February I've been dating a woman who is.............23. She initiated it and I responded. It's been a great experience. We have a lot in common, primarily artistic interests (she's a dancer/musician, I'm a musician/dancer), friends in the local dance community, similiar lifestyles in certain ways (I'm self-employed, my kids have left home, so I'm living alone and don't have obligations at night) and good chemistry.


I don't expect it to last very long but it has been fun for both of us, I've actually learned a lot,and in many ways our ages are irrelevant. She has a strong sense of identity and what she wants to do, however she clearly is trying different things outand doesn't know yet how these things are going to manifest in herlife.


I decided when the possibility arose to suspend prejudice, go with flow and see what happened.


I'm VERY glad I did.


Omar


Omar, you have just become my hero.
Haha . funny guy. Well it ought to work in a model of social darwinism, eh?





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- April 22nd, 2009, 03:08 pm
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MichelleinMississauga, wrote :

I am curiously raising this question to see what feedback is out there...


What is a healthy age range between people that are dating? Of course this depends on the ages of individuals in the first place, but what seems to be a healthy range?


Here is what I have deduced...


1. Young men think young women should date young men
2. Young men think older women can date young men
3. Older men think young women can date older men


Women, when commenting on others, have had the "age matters very little" approach from what I've seen.... it appears to be the men who have ideas around who is eligible for who...


Now I know I will hear "it all depends on the person" and that it depends on "where you are in your life" etc... but really... all things considered, in some cases is "older" just "too much older"??





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At 23, what is reasonable for me???
In my early 20's I found 7-10 years older worked for me becuase of compatability and maturity. The again, I just left a relationship where the man was only 10 years older and "too old" for me becuase hehad already "lived" the good years of hislife and was ready to settle down too much. At 37 and my matches all seem to be 10+ years older, I have to say that it really comes down tohow young they are at heart and not the number of their age. I, personally would be very suspivious of a man who is old enough to be my father. That just makes me feel creepy but I know lots of people have happy healthy relationships with people of all ages. Good luck to you!
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omar2 wrote :

redevil999 wrote :


omar2 wrote :


I'm in my early 50's and since February I've been dating a woman who is.............23. She initiated it and I responded. It's been a great experience. We have a lot in common, primarily artistic interests (she's a dancer/musician, I'm a musician/dancer), friends in the local dance community, similiar lifestyles in certain ways (I'm self-employed, my kids have left home, so I'm living alone and don't have obligations at night) and good chemistry.


I don't expect it to last very long but it has been fun for both of us, I've actually learned a lot,and in many ways our ages are irrelevant. She has a strong sense of identity and what she wants to do, however she clearly is trying different things outand doesn't know yet how these things are going to manifest in herlife.


I decided when the possibility arose to suspend prejudice, go with flow and see what happened.


I'm VERY glad I did.


Omar


Wow, nothing I like to see more than a man look past prejudices and buck the trend... way to make a sacrifice Omar


Do I detect sarcasm?


No trend here for me personally, this is a first.


Yours, O.
Never mind all that. KUDOS to you Omar ! Enjoy !
- April 22nd, 2009, 09:46 pm
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In all seriousness, my age range has been rather consistent for the past 20 years. When I was in my 20's I was attracted to women between 25-40. I'm 43 now and I'm attracted to women between 25-40. (Obviously, there are always some exceptions).


There are downsides to dating someone much younger or older. Obviously, the chances are the two won't have a lot in common, although that isn't always the case. The bigger danger is that people change. Anyone under 30 years old will change more drastically and faster than their older mate. I firmly believe that the vast majority of people don't truly know what they want in a mate until after they turn 30. We think we know, but the truth is the vast majority of us don't even know ourselves until 30. By the time you reach 35 or 40 you've pretty much figured out who are, and any changes you make are relatively small. So, typically the younger person "outgrows" the older person. The point is, date whoever you are comfortable dating, but be advised that if you are 23 and you date a 43 year old, you probably won't be with him (or her) 5 or 10 years from now. Then again, there's no guarantee with a younger mate either.





With the divorce rate so high, I would say that there are no guarantees...
Very true. My attitude is simply to enjoy it while it lasts, however long or short that may be.
- April 22nd, 2009, 09:54 pm
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This is something that really concerns me.I have always tended to be attracted to older guys. I was the first born to very young parents and have felt like an adult since I was a young child. (There are quite a few family stories about me when I thought I was as mature as my parents!) But now I'm a widow at age 44 and I don't want to go there again. Women live longer, etc, and so my head tells me I need to look for a younger guy. I guess I'll have to see how things turn out. Oh, and I've had a breakthrough tonight. I initiated communication! Yeah, yeah, not a big deal for most, but I usually wait to be approached. I'm practicing deep breathing to get me through it. : )
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