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Anybody out there about 44-48, blond hair, green or blue eyes, about 5'6" 130-140 lbs with grown children?
Blonde hair, green eyes, 132 lbs, grown-up children, so far so good. Dammit, failed on age and height.
- April 22nd, 2009, 03:59 am
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Anybody out there about 44-48, blond hair, green or blue eyes, about 5'6" 130-140 lbs with grown children?


Blonde hair, green eyes, 132 lbs, grown-up children, so far so good. Dammit, failed on age and height.
LOL You Rock! Is he tall? With money? Oh did I say that?
- April 22nd, 2009, 06:16 am
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I personally like late 20s to early 30s for an 'ideal' long term, marriage partner, considering the life experiences, mindset, my hope to have children of our own, etc.
- April 22nd, 2009, 11:00 am
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zal wrote :

In all seriousness, my age range has been rather consistent for the past 20 years. When I was in my 20's I was attracted to women between 25-40. I'm 43 now and I'm attracted to women between 25-40. (Obviously, there are always some exceptions).


There are downsides to dating someone much younger or older. Obviously, the chances are the two won't have a lot in common, although that isn't always the case. The bigger danger is that people change. Anyone under 30 years old will change more drastically and faster than their older mate. I firmly believe that the vast majority of people don't truly know what they want in a mate until after they turn 30. We think we know, but the truth is the vast majority of us don't even know ourselves until 30. By the time you reach 35 or 40 you've pretty much figured out who are, and any changes you make are relatively small. So, typically the younger person "outgrows" the older person. The point is, date whoever you are comfortable dating, but be advised that if you are 23 and you date a 43 year old, you probably won't be with him (or her) 5 or 10 years from now. Then again, there's no guarantee with a younger mate either.

With the divorce rate so high, I would say that there are no guarantees...
- April 22nd, 2009, 11:31 am
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At 23, what is reasonable for me???
someone close to your own age, but I assure you that you will have all ages pursuing you at 23, including much older men that want a younger woman
- April 22nd, 2009, 12:33 pm
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I don't know about anyone else, and I can only speak for myself. I'm almost 44. My age range preference is from 42 to 54. Maybe I would even consider 55 or 56.


I prefer older men. That's my personal preference. I think age preference has a lot to do with birth order. As the oldest, I naturally would have some misgivings about dating someone younger than myself. Because I was responsible for taking care of my younger siblings, it doesn't feel natural to me to be in a dating relationship with someone younger than me.


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zal wrote :

In all seriousness, my age range has been rather consistent for the past 20 years. When I was in my 20's I was attracted to women between 25-40. I'm 43 now and I'm attracted to women between 25-40. (Obviously, there are always some exceptions).


There are downsides to dating someone much younger or older. Obviously, the chances are the two won't have a lot in common, although that isn't always the case. The bigger danger is that people change. Anyone under 30 years old will change more drastically and faster than their older mate. I firmly believe that the vast majority of people don't truly know what they want in a mate until after they turn 30. We think we know, but the truth is the vast majority of us don't even know ourselves until 30. By the time you reach 35 or 40 you've pretty much figured out who are, and any changes you make are relatively small. So, typically the younger person "outgrows" the older person. The point is, date whoever you are comfortable dating, but be advised that if you are 23 and you date a 43 year old, you probably won't be with him (or her) 5 or 10 years from now. Then again, there's no guarantee with a younger mate either.

So, you don't typically date anyone your own age either. Do you mind telling me why?
- April 22nd, 2009, 01:09 pm
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carriemarrie wrote :

research suggests that people commonly report greatest levels of relationship satisfaction when partners are within five years of one another. this is especially true when the male partner is older. when the male partner is older, there is an inverse assocation between the number of years between partners and satisfaction experienced in the relationship. this doesn't seem to be true to the same degree when the female partner is older.
Would you mind sharing your sources?
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ThePriestess wrote :

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As a general rule, try to stay above 17.


You only say that cus you're over 17.
See the local rules. There's this a website somewhere that somebody pulled up one day: ageofconsent or something like that. I was shocked that such a thing exists. But it does.
- April 22nd, 2009, 01:39 pm
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Nanette wrote :

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At 23, what is reasonable for me???


someone close to your own age, but I assure you that you will have all ages pursuing you at 23, including much older men that want a younger woman
Yep. Agreed. Many older men will go for it. Some predatory, too. But some are just nice fellows (cf. Jayjay).
- April 22nd, 2009, 01:41 pm
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