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As a general rule, try to stay above 17.
You only say that cus you're over 17.
- April 21st, 2009, 06:52 pm
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I'm in my early 50's and since February I've been dating a woman who is.............23. She initiated it and I responded. It's been a great experience. We have a lot in common, primarily artistic interests (she's a dancer/musician, I'm a musician/dancer), friends in the local dance community, similiar lifestyles in certain ways (I'm self-employed, my kids have left home, so I'm living alone and don't have obligations at night) and good chemistry.


I don't expect it to last very long but it has been fun for both of us, I've actually learned a lot,and in many ways our ages are irrelevant. She has a strong sense of identity and what she wants to do, however she clearly is trying different things outand doesn't know yet how these things are going to manifest in herlife.


I decided when the possibility arose to suspend prejudice, go with flow and see what happened.


I'm VERY glad I did.


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- April 21st, 2009, 07:52 pm
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ThePriestess wrote :

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As a general rule, try to stay above 17.


You only say that cus you're over 17.
Not according to my profile.
- April 21st, 2009, 08:42 pm
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I would never date anyone young enough that I could be her father ... legitimately. That is when I was over 20. I wouldn't even consider it in the remotest of circumstances. I know men who have successful relationships with women 20 years younger, but its not for me.


And its not just that I find it predatory, but more that I would rather be with a woman who is close to my age who has most likely experienced much of the life experiences that I have. I can't imagine going through my 20s or 30s again with a woman that age. 40s maybe, but not younger than that.


Now I don't mean to sound judgmental, because I believe to each his own. It's just not for me.


Anybody out there about 44-48, blond hair, green or blue eyes, about 5'6" 130-140 lbs with grown children?
So you don't date women your own age... or even 4 or 5 years younger?
- April 21st, 2009, 09:43 pm
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At 23, what is reasonable for me???


Whatever you're comfortable with.


As a general rule, try to stay above 17.
Hah.... thanks :P
- April 21st, 2009, 09:52 pm
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I would never date anyone young enough that I could be her father ... legitimately. That is when I was over 20. I wouldn't even consider it in the remotest of circumstances. I know men who have successful relationships with women 20 years younger, but its not for me.


And its not just that I find it predatory, but more that I would rather be with a woman who is close to my age who has most likely experienced much of the life experiences that I have. I can't imagine going through my 20s or 30s again with a woman that age. 40s maybe, but not younger than that.


Now I don't mean to sound judgmental, because I believe to each his own. It's just not for me.


Anybody out there about 44-48, blond hair, green or blue eyes, about 5'6" 130-140 lbs with grown children?


So you don't date women your own age... or even 4 or 5 years younger?
My thoughts, exactly, redevil. Thank you.
- April 21st, 2009, 09:59 pm
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omar2 wrote :

I'm in my early 50's and since February I've been dating a woman who is.............23. She initiated it and I responded. It's been a great experience. We have a lot in common, primarily artistic interests (she's a dancer/musician, I'm a musician/dancer), friends in the local dance community, similiar lifestyles in certain ways (I'm self-employed, my kids have left home, so I'm living alone and don't have obligations at night) and good chemistry.


I don't expect it to last very long but it has been fun for both of us, I've actually learned a lot,and in many ways our ages are irrelevant. She has a strong sense of identity and what she wants to do, however she clearly is trying different things outand doesn't know yet how these things are going to manifest in herlife.


I decided when the possibility arose to suspend prejudice, go with flow and see what happened.


I'm VERY glad I did.


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Omar, you have just become my hero.
- April 21st, 2009, 10:54 pm
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In all seriousness, my age range has been rather consistent for the past 20 years. When I was in my 20's I was attracted to women between 25-40. I'm 43 now and I'm attracted to women between 25-40. (Obviously, there are always some exceptions).


There are downsides to dating someone much younger or older. Obviously, the chances are the two won't have a lot in common, although that isn't always the case. The bigger danger is that people change. Anyone under 30 years old will change more drastically and faster than their older mate. I firmly believe that the vast majority of people don't truly know what they want in a mate until after they turn 30. We think we know, but the truth is the vast majority of us don't even know ourselves until 30. By the time you reach 35 or 40 you've pretty much figured out who are, and any changes you make are relatively small. So, typically the younger person "outgrows" the older person. The point is, date whoever you are comfortable dating, but be advised that if you are 23 and you date a 43 year old, you probably won't be with him (or her) 5 or 10 years from now. Then again, there's no guarantee with a younger mate either.


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Candlestar wrote :

Bringing up the old standby of "Half your age + 7" being the youngest....so at 23, 32 should really be about the upper limit...Mind you, this /does/ involve some algebra, and there are always exceptions to everything.
I'm sure most 60 year old men would love this rule.
- April 21st, 2009, 11:29 pm
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research suggests that people commonly report greatest levels of relationship satisfaction when partners are within five years of one another. this is especially true when the male partner is older. when the male partner is older, there is an inverse assocation between the number of years between partners and satisfaction experienced in the relationship. this doesn't seem to be true to the same degree when the female partner is older.
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