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sometimes i'll make the move to hold a guy's hand. but i'm one of those feminist types who also wear skirts above the ankle. *shrug





I'm shocked!


Next thing you know, you'll be KISSING them, too!








that post nearly gave me the vapors!


*fans self
lmao!
- May 2nd, 2009, 08:50 am
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None of this "may I hold your hand" nonsense.


For the guys, here's what you do. If you're walking together in a mall or something, you get on the side of her that she's not carrying anything with, and then casually put your hand out and say "I notice you have a hand free."


Then if she grabs it, you're in.


'may i hold your hand' and 'i notice you have a hand free',,,both equal nonsese to me,,





-Steve Cam


Heh, I have a huge success rate with that, plus you can easily tell if she's not that into you if she doesn't take your hand.


I wasn't putting down your 'technique'. I was under the impression you were saying that 'may I hold your hand' wasn't taking charge enough when you called it nonsense. If thats the case I merely equated the two.


I am a big believer of 'if it works for you, work it'. So my hat is off to you for finding something that works for you. I am going on a date here soon, and if the situation calls for it, I may steal your line!


-Steve Cam


You gotta let us know how your date was!
Date went well,,did the dinner and movie thing,,first time my mother set me up with a gal,,so i think my mother willed it to go well,,


shes pretty old fashioned,,has a 10 year old boy,,father not in state,,she asked some pretty heavy questions and made comments about positive male role models,,was both refreshing and scary at the same time,,turning 37 tomorrow and still no children,,so im a bit leary of getting involved fast,,she also does the church thing and i think im the only athiest around,,


oh well,,will see how mothers judgement goes





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- May 6th, 2009, 03:15 am
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Gentlemen are sexy! Bottom,top and middle line.
- May 6th, 2009, 05:47 am
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steve_cam,I will pray for you.
- May 6th, 2009, 05:51 am
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I agree, hello123; a gentleman is always totally cool.


So, Steve, in what ways did you find her "old-fashioned", and how did you show her you are her gentleman? Did she show you she is a lady, in return?


(and am happy for you, that you had a good evening!)
- May 6th, 2009, 07:36 am
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Steve_Cam wrote :
Date went well,,did the dinner and movie thing,,first time my mother set me up with a gal,,so i think my mother willed it to go well,,


shes pretty old fashioned,,has a 10 year old boy,,father not in state,,she asked some pretty heavy questions and made comments about positive male role models,,was both refreshing and scary at the same time,,turning 37 tomorrow and still no children,,so im a bit leary of getting involved fast,,she also does the church thing and i think im the only athiest around,,


oh well,,will see how mothers judgement goes

-Steve Cam
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IMHO the most important part of what you said is...."she asked some pretty heavy questions and made comments about positive male role models"
Three of the most important qualities of a successful relationship:
Communication of how you feel
Communication of what you want/desire
Communication without fear of judgment / reprisal for communicating

The first two are pretty straight forward. The third is the one that is most commonly abused or missing: being able to free free to communicate. If you are afraid what the other will think, it implicitly states that (negative) judgment is happening. The fact that she asked you those questions implicitly tells you that she trusts you to that extent. When you can really talk, you can really love.

In other news, Laura referred to me as her "boyfriend" (ok, old fashioned, and loving every second of it, just had to share before I explode!!!!)

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- July 3rd, 2009, 04:44 pm
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Jeep Steve,

I so agree with everything you said, you are right on about communication without fear of judgment is equal to having the ability to freely love.... I think I will call you my "boyfriend" too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (now you are really going to explode) yeah!!
- July 3rd, 2009, 05:17 pm
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Old fashioned ways are making a come back, I think. We like the old ways with a mixture of the new. Men holding the door open for us, or me holding the door open for them, which usually surprises them, but it's like my up bringing, common courtesy to everyone.
My dad was old fashioned, believed in being the bread winner, utill times got tough and my step-mom went back to work for a while. It takes two to make this world work.
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