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Well, this thread was way more uniform in opinion than I expected.
- April 19th, 2009, 07:54 pm
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D_Lion wrote :

Well, this thread was way more uniform in opinion than I expected.
Yeah...homogeneous threads should be banned ... But since they are not, I'm going to add, or reiterate, that phone calls at the start of a relationship (before you meet) can be ahint as to how well the two will hit it off.
- April 19th, 2009, 08:13 pm
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D_Lion wrote :

Well, this thread was way more uniform in opinion than I expected.
You expected to see someone that likes to talk on the phone, post in I don't like talking on the phone? Only if they also like to get flamed.





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- April 19th, 2009, 08:22 pm
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I admit it! I like talking on the phone! But part of that is because I work alone outside and could easily go 6 or 7 hours with no human contact at all. Then I go home where I live with a teenager. I vaguely remember what he looks like, but ever since he got his license, I'm not so sure because he's never home. Would I prefer an in-person conversation? Of course. Along with hugging and kissing and...


Having said that, I also know that most people have real lives where they have to concentrate and interact with humans, so I don't need to talk forever. Just a simple 20 minute phonecallonce a day (when it's convenient for the guy) keeps me one happy woman. If a guy wants to talk longer, he'd better have the same cell phone carrier as I do, and if he does, I'm veryhappy.


- April 19th, 2009, 08:43 pm
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VB_Girl, wrote :

I often see people write "I don't like to talk on the phone". When I hear/read this, I feel like I can never call the personwithout feeling like I am intruding. I'm just wondering what that means? Do you not want to have long getting to know you conversationsor that you don't like the general 'just checking in' type of conversation?Or something else?
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Ok call me...let's talk about this!


- April 19th, 2009, 09:10 pm
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In my preference, phone calls are limited to the exchange of factual information (“I’m leaving work at 6:00; I’ll meet you about 7:00.&rdquo


I agree with D_Lion. I'd better go check my temperature now.


Seriously, I have the kind of job where I needto avoid getting bogged downon thephone so I can attend to the people that need my care. Despite being a pretty friendly person, outside the office Ialso avoid phones except to use it as a tool:to coordinateappointments, dates/meetups, friend get togethersor to touch basebriefly with family members, etc.


VBgirl, don't take it personally.Even ifa guyisn't 'big on phones' (that's how I describe myself in dating situations),if he likes you, he won'tsee your call as an intrusion if you're touching base to arrange time together to get to know you in person. Good luck.


And of course since I'm not a phone person, I think call waiting is annoying...
- April 19th, 2009, 09:23 pm
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D_Lion wrote :

I intensely dislike aimless phone calls …


Girl: Hi. What are you doing?


Frog: Preparing dinner.


Girl: What are you making?


Frog: Why does it matter?


Girl: Just curious …


Frog: Both hands and attention are required – goodbye.


Telephone calls are nearly always disruptive; usually occurring at an awkward moment for me and a period of boredom for her.


In my preference, phone calls are limited to the exchange of factual information (“I’m leaving work at 6:00; I’ll meet you about 7:00.&rdquo



Telephone calls can be fun and informative...


the frog should remember that girls need connection...





Girl: Hi baby how are things in your end of the pond??


Frog: Im busy making dinner


Girl: What are you making?


Frog: Why does it matter?


Girl: Just curious … guess what Im wearing....?


Frog: why?


Girl: it's tight, the zipper is stuck and


Frog:gulp


Girl:Both YOUR hands and attention are required....
- April 19th, 2009, 09:28 pm
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It means that we don't "talk" on the phone as an activity. As in:


1. Some people shop for an item.


2. Some people window shop or shop like it is an olympic sport.


I talk on the phone like I'm shopping for an item. When a man calls me, I think he has a reason for calling me. I dated a fellah recently that called every day. Sometimes more than once a day. He had no reason for calling. He just wanted company. I was trying to figure out, during these conversations, why he had called. *sigh* It's not that I don't "visit" on the phone with a long distance friend or two ... but even then, I tell them the reason for the call and ask them if it's a good time for it.


VB, Does that help?
- April 19th, 2009, 09:29 pm
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angelpoet wrote :

D_Lion wrote :


I intensely dislike aimless phone calls …


Girl : Hi. What are you doing?


Frog : Preparing dinner.


Girl : What are you making?


Frog : Why does it matter?


Girl : Just curious …


Frog : Both hands and attention are required – goodbye.


Telephone calls are nearly always disruptive; usually occurring at an awkward moment for me and a period of boredom for her.


In my preference, phone calls are limited to the exchange of factual information (“I’m leaving work at 6:00; I’ll meet you about 7:00.&rdquo





Telephone calls can be fun and informative...


the frog should remember that girls need connection...





Gir l: Hi baby how are things in your end of the pond??


Frog : Im busy making dinner


Girl: What are you making?


F rog: Why does it matter?


Girl: Just curious … guess what Im wearing....?


Frog: why?


Girl: it's tight, the zipper is stuck and


Frog: gulp


Girl: Both YOUR hands and attention are required....








You know, AP, sometimes I need a thump on the head too. Thanks for making me laugh.
- April 19th, 2009, 09:31 pm
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With my matches I've talked on average 30-45 minutes. I'm a phone person with the right people (especially friends)....with the right people (not necessarily matches) I could spend time talking and chatting for much longer than an hour (LOL not to assume I have no social life! LOL)


- April 19th, 2009, 09:42 pm
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