Seeking Women Who are Right for You

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Ingytravel is offline Ingytravel Post #11  April 20,2009, 6:24pm
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lucky173,587075 wrote :

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Oh..I didn't mean for my post to say that we shouldn't want or enjoy companionship..I absolutely do and that's why I joined EH after spending 3 years alone after my divorce...


So I apologize for not stating that...I just meant that in reference to the article here, we shouldn't put so much pressure on another person to MAKE us happy...or 'expect' that person to be EVERYTHING to us...


I REALLY look forward to meeting someone special and hopefully getting married again some day...To laugh, talk, and share all the wonderful things in life with someone I love, respect, and care for Believe me, I am giddy with the excitement of possibilites


Ingy... you're just giddy. Period. Great posts though!
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waltercl is online now waltercl Post #12  April 20,2009, 9:23pm
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I definitely agree that we have to have a feeling of confidence and completeness in where we are at before we can be ready for a relationship with someone else. Yet we also have to be open to the possibilities that life would be even better if we met someone who could add to what we already have. As I've said before in similar ways this can be a tricky tightrope to maneuver, but it's a balance that I believe we need to try and maintain.


As a Christian I also try to remind myself that things will happen when they are suppose to happen. That doesn't mean that I don't look or do my part, but it does mean that I can relax and not be constantly concerned that the right person has somehow passed me by. I do get the feeling though that many of us will look back several years from now when we are at that time in a serious relationshp and think to ourselves, "man we sure did obsess about a lot of stuff when we were single didn't we."
 
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roguewolf1 is offline roguewolf1 Post #13  December 7,2009, 1:41pm

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I wouldn't date the chick in the picture. Materialistic and too demanding. It's all in the eyes and body language.
 
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Andrew86 is offline Andrew86 Post #14  December 7,2009, 8:30pm
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Anybody who finds their soul mate on the first try has to be the luckiest person alive. There will always be couldas, wouldas, and shouldas, but eventually everybody finds somebody. It just takes effort, patience, and hard work but it will come. Just do not be discouraged by the fails, and always think of those as life lessons.
 
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Exstasis7 is offline Exstasis7 Post #15  August 24,2010, 10:28pm
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I generally agree with everything said here, however it bothers me that eHarmony continues to downplay physical attraction. I'm all for the deeper elements and they MUST be there- the wisdom and maturity, the faith. But let me say this right now: If I don't like your face, then I will not date you. Maybe for some guys it's something else, but for me, the face is so key. I can't be with someone whose face I look at all the time (and kiss!) but dislike. I don't care if the rest of your "total package" be it physical or otherwise is awesome or not. No one should be "desperate" or "holy" enough to settle for someone who isn't attractive to them. If you do settle, you will regret it.
 
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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #16  August 25,2010, 9:28am
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I thought the article was interesting, and believe that if you continue to run into the same pitfalls with every relationship, you need to re-examine... you... what you want, who you are, what you're looking for, and make sure they all align. That includes being comfortable and happy with who you are regardless of whether you are with someone. That other person should compliment your own happiness.

The one thing that stood out for me in the article though, was about the long-term goals, and making sure from the beginning that they are aligned. Does this mean, that if a guy doesn't know whether he wants to be married again, and a woman knows that she does want to be married again, that they are not aligned on the same goals and this woman is "not right" for him?
 
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cherikee is offline cherikee Post #17  January 8,2011, 12:02am
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For me, the only void in my life is not having a partner. So when I am looking for a partner, I am technically filling a void in my life.
 
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