Hello everyone. It's been a long, long time since I've posted, but I still read the threads now and then. I have had a couple experiences lately and I have been wondering if it has happened to anyone else on here, or if it has just been me!


In January, I met a match from another site (I've been on eharmony on and off for three years and NEVER had any luck with matches). We added one another to yahoo messenger and talked on and off for a while before we considered meeting. We finally agreed to meet for dinner. So, on a Friday night after work, I met up with him for dinner at a local restaraunt. We talked, got to know one another and after we had eaten I asked if he would like to hang out more, however, he declined and stated that he had plans with his friends for later that evening. The next day, I sent him a text, just saying that I appreciated dinner and that it was nice to meet him. Since that night, I have never heard another word from him. Not even a single, "hi, how are you?" I have not even seen him logged on messenger since then, so I can only think that he's deleted me or put me on ignore, lol. I'm not saying that I'm devastated over not seeing him again, but I just thought an explanation would have been respectful! I'm an adult, I could have handled knowing that he wasn't attracted or didn't feel a "spark."


So anyway, last week, I decided to bite the bullettand meet another match (from another dating site NOT eharmony, of course, lol). Once again, we had talked on yahoo messenger on and off, and on the phone many times before I agreed to meet. He was coming to town on business, so I met him for dinner. During dinner we had a nice conversation. After dinner, against my better judgment, I went back to his hotel with him to hang out a little longer. I made it clear what my limits were and he seemed to understand. I stayed for about an hour, and it was pretty obvious that he wanted to take things a little further, despite our agreement...lol. I apologized and told him that I thought it was time for me to leave, considering a I had about an hour's drive home. I thanked him for dinner and then left. Again, the next day I sent him a simple text and apologizedonce morefor leaving and told him that it was nice meeting him....and again, I have not heard a word from this guy since then. There have been no responses to my messages on messenger or anything.


I have just been wondering, if this is common among online dating and has something like this ever happened to anyone else on here? It is very discouraging, to say the least!