djrun is offline djrun Post #1  April 15,2009, 3:03am
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I met a girl on line who I found interesting and we hit it off immediately. We communicated by e-mail then phone before I traveled out of town to meet her two weeks later. We had a wonderful date as we spent the entire time together. During the week, we chatted both by phone and by sending pictures to each other of our date by e-mail. The following weekend I had some time off work so we agreed to meet again and spend the three day weekend together. It went great as we have nearly everything in common. I don't believe I've met anyone in my life like her and I had really fallen for her. But on the 3rd day, she got a phone call and after that I could feel that something was a little different with her. We still had a nice time the remainder of the three day weekend and she told me to call her to make sure I traveled back to my home city safely. She always answers or returns my call but it has now been 3 days and I've heard nothing. I e-mailed her with some downloaded photos from our wonderful weekend and told her to let me know what she thought of the photos. Once again I've heard nothing. I have restrained myself from trying to communicate with her again as I feel if she really wants to talk to me she will call. I'm deeply heartbroken as this was someone with which I was willing to relocate and spend the rest of my life with. I don't know what to do as I can't stop thinking about her all the time.
 
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angelofmerci is offline angelofmerci Post #2  April 15,2009, 7:29am
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I am really sorry that you have not heard from this girl. The key toyour situation lies withthe phone call she received while on your three daydate.Until she communicates with you again you can not know what is going through her mind. I would try to see if she will not explain whathappened but do not be pushy. Give her a few more daysto contact you then make one last attempt at re-establishing communications. If she fails to reply then it is time to more on. Good Luck
 
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FruitaBu is offline FruitaBu Post #3  April 15,2009, 8:21am
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I can't imagine spending 3 days with someone and then not even bothering to make contact with them afterward. Whatever it means, it's rude.


On another note.. there is no way to know if you want to spend your life with someone in less than a month. It's not a good idea to let yourself get that carried away while dating. Really knowing someone takes time. In the future, you may want to reign in your emotions a bit until there is more investment in the relationship on both sides. It may save you some heartache.
 
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KRA_Z_1 is offline KRA_Z_1 Post #4  April 15,2009, 8:23am
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WHOA!!! Time to slow down there Casanova! It seems that you are moving a little bit fast...you've only met her a couple of times and you're already willing to relocate and spend the rest of you're life with her?!! You need to re-evaluate your situation as you may be coming across to her as clingy or needy, which in most instances is inappropriate in a new relationship. Take a breath, relax, and think about what you're doing. Give her some time to figure things out too, as she may think that things are moving too fast. Wait a few more days, and if she still hasn't responded, call her and talk to her about how she's feeling. I hope that things work out between the two of you, but remember that allrelationships worth attaining require patience and understanding. Best of luck to you!
 
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corky44 is offline corky44 Post #5  April 15,2009, 8:47am
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Maybe the phone call was bad financial news. It is tax season.


If a phone call changed her behavior, it must have been something serious. If not, then Fruitabu is right, she's rude.


KRA_Z_1 is also right, you need to slow down. New relationships are exciting but lasting ones take time. Even if she's not intimidated by your zeal right now, it may ultimately stifle your relationship if you move too fast.


Good luck.
 
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boccabum is offline boccabum Post #6  April 15,2009, 9:13am
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I agree with the 3 last posts. Slow down...way down. A few long weekend dates does not make a relationship. In fact, LDR's like this where you spend artificial "vacation" time together and not get to know the person in a natural setting is deceptive. Her coolness may or may not have something to do with a phone call. People's interpretation of events are clouded by the moment. More likely, she suddenly realized your "enthusiasm" was more than she could handle and at faster velocity.


The fastest way to turn a woman off? Become overly enthusiastic/needy/clingy. Never forget that.
 
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