Should I tell him I'm a lot older?


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ladydoctor is offline ladydoctor Post #31  April 13,2009, 4:39pm
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If you were a guy and this was a girl would we even have this thread? Come on. I am 34 and mostly get hit on by guys in their 20s (and 40s for some reason). I used to feel the way you do and tell them my age before I even gave them my number. No one ever cared. Some didn't believe me and thought it was a brush off.


Just let it go. The majority of my age-matched friends are dating and marrying younger men. Even if this is just a fling (and u r ok with that) then what is the harm?


Mention it when it would naturally come up in a conversation. Not before. Otherwise, like someone said, it will seem as if you have an issue.


Just enjoy whatever happens.


And keep us up to date on what goes on!


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D_Lion,576457 wrote :

Do I detect a hint of jealousy?!
And how are youuuuuu?
 
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three_eyes,576449 wrote :


I'm just hoping he doesn't ask me when I graduated law school, because that will be a dead giveaway. Especially since he just graduated a year ago from law school.





Uh oh.


Suddenly the age thing becomes unimportant.
 
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noseyparker,574802 wrote :

Depends on how serious this gets. Your age is irrelevant until this begins to have serious potential. I have been in the same situation. A hot looking 28 year old thought I was his age, when I was 42. The entire Dept knew of his attraction. Only he, was not aware of the huge age difference.


When he asked me to work with him for the Summer I knew this was my chance. I sent him a chronological resume. We are still good friends...


Darn! I WAS tempted...
And what would have been the problem with having worked with him for the summer if you had the time?
 
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I go along with the others that if he asks you out then you should go. There is no need to volunteer your age. If the subject comes up naturally (like he brings it up) then you can both reveal your age and find out his. Should the relationship develop there will be opportunities to discuss age and if there is a large difference to discuss how this would affect things.


Good luck let us know how it works out.
 
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lacedwithhope,576520 wrote :

three_eyes,576449 wrote :


I'm just hoping he doesn't ask me when I graduated law school, because that will be a dead giveaway. Especially since he just graduated a year ago from law school.





Uh oh.


Suddenly the age thing becomes unimportant.
Why, because lawyers shouldn't breed? hee hee!
 
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Another update: we talked on the phone tonight for about 20 minutes (could have been longer but I was sitting in the car and wanted to get inside) and had a really good conversation. We found out we have an unexpected connection, which I could tell really made him think. Don't know if anything else will come of this, but we did not talk at all about age and we have a date scheduled for this weekend.
 
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I would consider it irrelevant after having only met at a bar. Have fun!
 
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three_eyes,578299 wrote :

Another update: we talked on the phone tonight for about 20 minutes (could have been longer but I was sitting in the car and wanted to get inside) and had a really good conversation. We found out we have an unexpected connection, which I could tell really made him think. Don't know if anything else will come of this, but we did not talk at all about age and we have a date scheduled for this weekend.
hey, this is great, 3e!!


Where are you going? Don't forget to keep us posted - we boring settled folk like living vicariously.


 
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