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jlb896 is offline jlb896 Post #1  April 6,2009, 1:52pm
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Hi everyone! I was just curious about how you all felt about the dating rules and adherring to them. Personally, I find that they make the process morefrustratingand nearly could have lost some good guys in the past. I really don't follow them (I do wait for them to call me after the first date), but am curious about what others on here think. For the men, do you really hate it when women pursue you? Ladies, will you ever pursue a man? At what point, when you have been dating someone for a little while, do you drop the rules?
 
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Tear out the pages of the dating rules book and put them with that white roll next to the terlet.
 
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I really like it when people follow my[/i] rules.


I should so be selling them, instead of giving them away!


In all seriousness, when people present me with “rules” that they read instead of thinking up on their own, that is pretty much a dead giveaway of not enough intellect to think for oneself, which is enough to establish we won’t be compatible.
 
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***I literally cut/pasted my answer below because I just wrote this in response to another thread...so this is how I personally feel...it's all about knowing yourself..and what you want and are looking for in a partner...


I think it should be a wonderful dance...I like the guy to take the lead (ask me to dance)...but like other's have said...I will absolutely show my interest back..I've never had a guy say.."Hey..are you interested or not?".....If interested.....he takes a step..I will step....he calls me..I will call back...he kisses me...I will certainly kiss back....LOL.....and little by little...we are both building a great relationship....but I would never just 'sit back' and let a guy do all the work...and vice/versa..


Game playing/strict rules...is not my thing....I know what I am looking for and hope the man does too....so I have no time for that...nor would I do that with a guy...people see me on here talking about certain things..and yes..I have fun reading and learning about guys...but I only FOLLOW my own values and heart


I am very up front with a man..and know myself well enough, that if I didn't see it going further than a friendship after a date or two (that's all I really need to know if I feel 'chemistry'...then I would respectfully tell him...and I ask the same of him...and like I stated...any guy that I am really interested in...he will know!!!!
 
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Ingytravel,566188 wrote :

***I literally cut/pasted my answer below because I just wrote this in response to another thread...so this is how I personally feel...it's all about knowing yourself..and what you want and are looking for in a partner...


I think it should be a wonderful dance...I like the guy to take the lead (ask me to dance)...but like other's have said...I will absolutely show my interest back..I've never had a guy say.."Hey..are you interested or not?".....If interested.....he takes a step..I will step....he calls me..I will call back...he kisses me...I will certainly kiss back....LOL.....and little by little...we are both building a great relationship....but I would never just 'sit back' and let a guy do all the work...and vice/versa..


Game playing/strict rules...is not my thing....I know what I am looking for and hope the man does too....so I have no time for that...nor would I do that with a guy...people see me on here talking about certain things..and yes..I have fun reading and learning about guys...but I only FOLLOW my own values and heart


I am very up front with a man..and know myself well enough, that if I didn't see it going further than a friendship after a date or two (that's all I really need to know if I feel 'chemistry'...then I would respectfully tell him...and I ask the same of him...and like I stated...any guy that I am really interested in...he will know!!!!
perfectly written!!! agree 100%
 
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rules give you an excuse to play games and claim it's ok since you played by the rules
 
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boccabum,566191 wrote :

Ingytravel,566188 wrote :


***I literally cut/pasted my answer below because I just wrote this in response to another thread...so this is how I personally feel...it's all about knowing yourself..and what you want and are looking for in a partner...


I think it should be a wonderful dance...I like the guy to take the lead (ask me to dance)...but like other's have said...I will absolutely show my interest back..I've never had a guy say.."Hey..are you interested or not?".....If interested.....he takes a step..I will step....he calls me..I will call back...he kisses me...I will certainly kiss back....LOL.....and little by little...we are both building a great relationship....but I would never just 'sit back' and let a guy do all the work...and vice/versa..


Game playing/strict rules...is not my thing....I know what I am looking for and hope the man does too....so I have no time for that...nor would I do that with a guy...people see me on here talking about certain things..and yes..I have fun reading and learning about guys...but I only FOLLOW my own values and heart


I am very up front with a man..and know myself well enough, that if I didn't see it going further than a friendship after a date or two (that's all I really need to know if I feel 'chemistry'...then I would respectfully tell him...and I ask the same of him...and like I stated...any guy that I am really interested in...he will know!!!!


perfectly written!!! agree 100%
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #9  April 6,2009, 2:08pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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omar2,566179 wrote :

Creativity and natural responses trump rules almost anytime.








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Yup. Rules are used by people who can't or don't want to think for themselves.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #10  April 6,2009, 2:09pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Ingytravel,566188 wrote :

I think it should be a wonderful dance...
Hey...you know many dances have rules (steps).
 
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