myharleysgotpink is offline myharleysgotpink Post #1  April 2,2009, 10:41am
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Guys - When you refer to a female as a cougar, do you mean it as a compliment?


And ladies - Do you take it as a compliment if you are called that?


Exactly what are the makings of a cougar?? And does s e x have to be involved??
 
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My SO was called a cougar by one of her co-workers after looking at a picture of us. I am 3 years older than her so I took that as a compliment. I know that's not what you're looking for so I'll answer another way.





I wouldn't compliment any wimminz friend of mine like that.





Given the predatory nature of the actual animal, I think a cougar would be a woman who seeks out younger men for a relationship. Does sex have to be involved? No. But isn't sex usually part of most relationships?
 
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To me (and I'm a man in my 40's who lives in an area infected with Cougars) a cougar is a woman who seeks out sexual relationships with younger men...for the purpose of sex. Much like I do with younger women!!


It's not so much a compliment being called a cougar. But I don't look down on or judge women for wanting younger guys. We men have been doing it since time began. So...more power to them!
 
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myharleysgotpink, wrote :

Guys - When you refer to a female as a cougar, do you mean it as a compliment?


And ladies - Do you take it as a compliment if you are called that?


Exactly what are the makings of a cougar?? And does s e x have to be involved??
Since I see boccabum already gave you the definition, I'll just add my .02 as an older woman who was hit a lot by much younger men on other sites I've been on. I do not consider it a compliment, and I have absolutely no interest in far younger men. But to each his/her own.
 
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I am back in the dating world about3 years after a 20 year marriage. I have not pursued younger men but only younger men have asked me out. Age differences of up to 12 years-one was 10 years and one was six years. And frankly, I have only met younger men that I have been attracted to-not to say I would date a man my age or a little older if I was attracted to him.


Ido not like the name Cougar. Seems I have been referred to as that in the last year and at the time the man I was dated prompting corrected the person that made the comment that he was the one who asked me out.
 
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only positive when it comes from the young guys who wants her. it's either neutral or negative from all others dudes.
 
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I was actually going to start a new thread to get everyone's interpretation/definition of this term.


But my main question (of the definiton) would have been; what exactly does the (actual, NOT seeming)age range have to be for a woman to be considered a "cougar"?? 10 years? 15-20, 20+, less than half her age???


BTW; I'm kind of neutral on whether or not it is derogatory, or a compliment. I did once tease my woman friend insinuating she was a cougar when she was admiring a MUCH younger man. Even did the cougar sound effect and claw scratch motion to accompany the statement.
 
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notamaninpower,560517 wrote :

BTW; I'm kind of neutral on whether or not it is derogatory, or a compliment. I did once tease my woman friend insinuating she was a cougar when she was admiring a MUCH younger man. Even did the cougar sound effect and claw scratch motion to accompany the statement.
The image it triggers in my mind is similar to that of 'dirty old man'.....though I've oftentimes seen women use it in more ofa positive sense.
 
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I think there is a Group for this subject.


Question to all: if you were to accept that casual relationships are totally okay, and you had a reason for pursuing one, would that change your view?
 
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I wasn't sure what it meant, so I had to look it up.





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