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I've tried EH,Bars, match, friends. Nothing leaves me fulfilled. I havent been given really, any compelling reasons to give away what I have for a committed, fulfilling relationship.


I've been in the dating pool for 10 years. Granted. thats not a long time but its a decent sample size to have figured out by now what I like and dont like.A lot were college years or 2-month flings that never worked out but I've dated the beauty queen, the jock, the cougar, the insecure girl and the best friend and none of them left me fulfilled. I was always cherishing time alone to the things that I enjoy.


What it boils down to is that im single by choice and happy about it. I live with 2 girls and they tell me that When their friends come over, they would go out with me in a flash but I have to keep saying that im not interested. Why? I enjoy playing golf, refereeing soccer, My career has taken off as a lot of my peers are married with children and cant accept assignments that have gotten me major points within the organization. I've also done remarkable charity work with my alumni association in town and have paid off $15k in student loan debt in the last year. Im about 4 months away from paying for my first house in cash.


I really dont have time for the "game" of dating and seeing the way some people fret over poofs, or disaster dates leave me thinking that this mixed up world just isn't for me. 2 weeks ago, 11 of my best friends and I went on a camping trip that we do once a year and it just so happened that that Sat was a buddy's 2-year anniversary with his GIRLFRIEND. Rather than be reasonable and celebrate with him during the week, she gives the group an ultimatum that either we camp with a girl or he doesn't go. Sad.


Now fire away with the "you're 26, immature, young, know nothing" im just not compelled by the institution of marriage or the idea of a long-term relationship.
 
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Your life is fulfilled so good for you. There's no rush to get married, enjoy your single life, you should. Kudos to you.


BTW, did you have a question?
 
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glassonlyhalffull_fillit,557620 wrote :

Your life is fulfilled so good for you. There's no rush to get married, enjoy your single life, you should. Kudos to you.


BTW, did you have a question?
I think he’s out of our league. Shall we talk to each other?
 
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D_Lion,557632 wrote :

glassonlyhalffull_fillit,557620 wrote :


Your life is fulfilled so good for you. There's no rush to get married, enjoy your single life, you should. Kudos to you.


BTW, did you have a question?


I think he’s out of our league. Shall we talk to each other?
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Are you sure you're happy? To me it sounds like you're justifying giving up. (Believe me, I've been there.)


As to your buddy with the militant GF, you should've dumped his arse in the closest body of water!
 
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So; it sounds like things are going just fine for you at this point in your life. You are busy and enjoying your life and not feeling the need to fit in a relationship. There really is nothing wrong with that at all.


How much of this is related, though, to thestrongly negative feelings toward women that you've expressed in some other threads?I assume that they are based on some sort of negative experiences you've had.
 
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Hmmm...trying to figure out exactly what you are posting....especially on a dating advice board....is it to show other guys that hey...you can do this too? Or other women..."hey...I don't need you, I am so fabulous"...(and hope they come along anyway?)....Not trying to be mean...And I think taking a break from dating at times is perfectly fine and yes...you are very young and no rush whatsover to be in a long term...so going out and having fun is great!..Just perplexed on the purpose of your post
 
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glassonlyhalffull_fillit,557620 wrote :

Your life is fulfilled so good for you. There's no rush to get married, enjoy your single life, you should. Kudos to you.


BTW, did you have a question?
Its more or less a save haven for others who may have been searching forever, or climbing a ladder they might not want to because their parents or friends pressure them for marriage.


Looking at the "Are men afraide of marriage for legal reasons" thread I saw a lot of men who made mistakes and seriously regret it, or were raked over the coals. There also seems like a lot of men who are down on their luck because they cant find a woman...Im hoping men out there realize that there are other things in life besides women and that you can by happy and fulfilled with your own activities. So many men (including me at one point) put all their eggs inone basket for the dating game and give up things in their life that they enjoy.


I should also add that the reason why did not go on the first 2 camping trips was because I was in a relationship and my S.O. gave me the same ultimatum.
 
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Raw_Truth,557656 wrote :

Are you sure you're happy? To me it sounds like you're justifying giving up. (Believe me, I've been there.)


As to your buddy with the militant GF, you should've dumped his arse in the closest body of water!
Well, You might say I have given up, because I dont enjoy the chase and game of dating. I dont enjoy having to put on a show to impress someone my age. Older women have ticking clocks and have pressured me for marriage..women my age tend to be interested in playing the field as agressively as possible and picking guys who are flashy and big. I wont date women in their early 20s.


I knew it was time to bolt from my last relationship when I came home one day with the good news that I was offered a lucrative contract job overseas for 9 months. Instead of 'Congrats, im so proud, this is wonderful, im happy for you" it turned into:


"What am I going to do, what does this mean for me? are you leaving me? I dont want you to go"


Who could be with someone that self-centered?
 
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So; it sounds like things are going just fine for you at this point in your life. You are busy and enjoying your life and not feeling the need to fit in a relationship. There really is nothing wrong with that at all.


How much of this is related, though, to thestrongly negative feelings toward women that you've expressed in some other threads?I assume that they are based on some sort of negative experiences you've had.
Of course.even a childdoesn't grab the hot skillet handle twice.
 
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