"What I'm concerned about is you saying that you got "angry" after she didn't return your phone call for a few days? You've only gone out on one date....and even then..a little patience and understanding is key in any relationship...."


I get your point there. However, we had been texting each other every day before this for the past 7 days... so to not here from her for a full three days was a long time all things considered.


To give a little more background now that I've got some informative replies... I met this girl about 4 months ago at a party. Had a great conversation with her and got her number. I tried contacting her later that week by calling/texting, and it didn't really seem to go anywhere although we briefly chatted.


Then I was having a party at my house almost 3 months later and included her in a mass text that I was having a party and to "bring your own shoelaces". She texted me back intrigued by this line I guess, I we start talking through text the next couple days. I called her that next weekend to see what she was doing and she said she was going on spring break to Florida... which was kindof strange because she had been asking what I was doing that weekend.


So Iwas like whatever, I'll keepin touch with her over this period, and was pleasantly surprised to seethatshe was doing a lot of the initiating.


I know some of you might look down at texting as not being real communication, but the series of text messagessent back and forth over thenext week were pretty amazingin terms of being very funny and very personal at the same time... like we already had our own sublanguage.


However, it tooka very strange turn at one point where I was joking with her about hooking up with some guy in Florida, and she got very defensive and said something along the lines of I thought you were the only guyI was allowed to be with? Later that night she texted me that she thought she was in love with me... hard to tell whether she was joking or not cause it'stext.


It got even stranger whenthe next day shesent me something making fun of me for wearingglasses, and the following day sent me a text saying "Fag" and nothing else. I was really offended by this, and had no idea where it was coming from. She appologized though, andsaid she was drunk.


... so we go on this date. I pickher up at her place which is about 30 minutes away from my place. We drove around for almost 45 minutes because we got lost but it was a lot of fun in the process. We ended up at some bar, had afew drinks, had some great conversation, and then I took her home. And she ended it like the way Iwas saying.


I think I got my hopes too high or something, and was willing to throw a few warning signs away that this girl was trouble in some sense... like her sending me very insulting things with no explanation.


So that is what I meant it was kind of long...

"Couple of scenarios here to consider. She may have suggested to call her the next day, only as a safe way to end the date. She may not have had any intention of answering if you did call. Not knowing more, it's all I can suggest. And yes... it happens... unfortunately."


Yea, this may have been the case unfortunately.

There was a lot more build up to the date than I originally explained I guess. She gave me some confusing signals where she would either be txting me like in a boyfriend/girlfriend type way, or insulting me, which started playfully at first but turned into some downright mean and very personal ones from her side.


I know it was someone who I barely know, but there was an instant connection both from the first time I met her in person, to the time texting her, and I've been in a serious relationship before so I don't like I was imagining it that much.


I guess I just got my hopes too high, and was let down rather hard. I'm not trying to say that getting angry at her was the correct move or whatever you want to call it. I'm not looking for people to tell me I was justified... it was what happened and I can't change the past. I do think that if she had had the same level of interest she would have let me know though.