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grammar_gal is offline grammar_gal Post #51  March 30,2009, 1:29am
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lacedwithhope,554910 wrote :

In real life I keep a pretty low profile (I don't readily discuss my accomplishments or opinions unless someone asks), and I also strongly believe in letting a relationship evolve naturally: without second- guessing, overanalyzing or rushing. If I just started dating someone, I wouldn't want them to have access to all my comments here until after they had gradually gotten to know me.


I think it's easy for comments here to be taken out of context and misconstrued, unless you're a regular participant. Having someone who barely knows you -- and with whom you are hoping to build a relationship -- sift through old posts would be like looking through my mail or bedroom window or something, lol.


Lastly, for some weird reason I tend to attract stalkers. I'm not even a very interesting person, but it's true. So, I wouldn't want to set up that kind of situation by giving someone I've just met my screename here.
I agree with you on that.... and would add - I am a very private person. I live a public life as a high school teacher and a cheer leading coach. That is one of the reasons I joined eH - because of the level of anonymity it affords - i.e. people cannot do searches.


If I were interested in anyone in a romantic sense, I would no more ask that person to join eH advice or even tell him about it than I would allow him to read my journal or diary entries. A person has to have his or her own corner in this world... and even when you are "in love".... that corner should remain your own.


There is such a thing as TMI.
 
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I have thought about it but in the past I have not given my screen name to anyone. I consider this site akin to a support group in some ways. On the other hand I have my picture up there so it would seem somewhat silly not to have it out in the open... In the future I will have to probably do that... Of course there is always that chance that I meet the woman of my dreams right here...


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PY,554324 wrote :

I was actually going to post this today but Jayjay beat me to it.....


My question was slightly from different angle though...what would you think if you've been communicating with a few people from the board, and one day you got matched with one of them through EH?


I've never thought of that...


I agree with Bigfincat..
PY, I've wondered about this often! It's had to have happened I would think, at some point?? Well, maybe that's just my optimism thinking how cool it would be to have happened and to have it work out really good! lol


I once got matched with a real-life friend. If I got matched with one of you guys from these boards, I'd probably go about it the same way I did with him. I called him up (would PM, email, or call depending on who here I was matched with), and I said "Did you check your matches today?"He said he hadn't. I told him I'd save him the surprise of seeing that we had been matched together, as well as the awkwardness of not knowing what/if anything to do about it. Asked if he wanted to mutually close each other, mutually leave each other hanging in the inbox or just go out and have a good laugh about it?


We ended up going out and having some good laughs, as usual. Tried the dating thing for a little while, but in the end realized we were better as friends - which, happy to say we still are.


A match with someone from these boards where it turned out there was no interest from one or both parties, or not a good match wouldn't be the end of the world, or any big deal. The only difference between them and any other match, is it wouldn't be cool to come here and talk 'trash' or dish the dirt on the communications or the date.


A match with someone from the boards that turned out good? Well then great! And it would give eH two angles of advertisement marketing
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #54  March 30,2009, 3:55am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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grammar_gal,554961 wrote :

lacedwithhope,554910 wrote :


In real life I keep a pretty low profile (I don't readily discuss my accomplishments or opinions unless someone asks), and I also strongly believe in letting a relationship evolve naturally: without second- guessing, overanalyzing or rushing. If I just started dating someone, I wouldn't want them to have access to all my comments here until after they had gradually gotten to know me.


I think it's easy for comments here to be taken out of context and misconstrued, unless you're a regular participant. Having someone who barely knows you -- and with whom you are hoping to build a relationship -- sift through old posts would be like looking through my mail or bedroom window or something, lol.


Lastly, for some weird reason I tend to attract stalkers. I'm not even a very interesting person, but it's true. So, I wouldn't want to set up that kind of situation by giving someone I've just met my screename here.


I agree with you on that.... and would add - I am a very private person. I live a public life as a high school teacher and a cheer leading coach. That is one of the reasons I joined eH - because of the level of anonymity it affords - i.e. people cannot do searches.


If I were interested in anyone in a romantic sense, I would no more ask that person to join eH advice or even tell him about it than I would allow him to read my journal or diary entries. A person has to have his or her own corner in this world... and even when you are "in love".... that corner should remain your own.


There is such a thing as TMI.

laced: can you give a for-instance of something you've said on these boards that could be taken out of context?


grammar_gal: I can see where that's a valid perspective for some people. For me, pretty much everything I say about myselfon this forum,and the way I say it and communicate,I'd want to communicate to a match I was interested in. While I know some people like to have their own corner, the approach I like is really letting myself be known. I've found that the things that I might be reticent about sharing with someone...are actually the most important things to share.
 
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Depends on how you use this place. If all you ever do is give advice to other people on relationships, that's fine. However if you'll end up using this place to get advice about your relationship, that could really cause major problems. The way I see it, it's the equivalent of venting to your best friend about some issue that you are having in your relationship and recording that conversation for your SO's listening "pleasure" - a bit creepy and a bad idea to put it mildly.Some things are best left private - it all boils down to having healthy personal boundaries in the relationship.
 
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lucky173,554289 wrote :

I haven't dated anyone, therefore haven't had anyone to mention it to
What ? Must be some thing wrong with the guy's in your area.
 
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tasmanian,555046 wrote :

lucky173,554289 wrote :


I haven't dated anyone, therefore haven't had anyone to mention it to


What ? Must be some thing wrong with the guy's in your area.
C'mon now, lets not turn this into another "blame the guy" thread
 
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